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2023.06.04 19:38 ranc1 Paradox of vulnerability
Someone commented the importance of being fragile - and we get conflicting messages from medical community such as CBT and self help books and trauma community. First of all - narcissists hate vulnerability - because this exposed their fragile ego, fragile self worth and fake persona that they try to hide away from others. So obviously - we need to be vulnerable in order to be healthy. Self-help books and CBT will instructs us on the other hand to be "Strong" and "Courageous" and that we face our fears and expose to society and life. This way CBT is instructing us to fuse our persona with our emotions - which is extremely dangerous: our emotions and feelings are fleeting - so we cannot base our self worth on something that can change on a whim. Also, feelings and emotions are sometimes misleading - we might feel scared - and due to inability to process this emotion we might interpret it as us being weak - while in reality this emotion might be anger. This is recipe for becoming hysterical and to fake pretend to be "strong" in order to assert our "power" - highly ineffective. There is always someone else who is more hysterical and when we make others around us people afraid - we will never make functional contact with anyone.
Some self-help books about "people pleasing" themes will instruct us to believe that being vulnerable means being people-pleaser and that we must be aggressive in order not to be taken advantage of. This "advice" will lead us to develop attachment issues, problems with trusting other people. We will start to build walls and isolate ourselves from others - highly ineffective.
There is a quote from Italian movie "L'arcano incantatore (1996)":
Weakness is fundamental in enabling the mind not to oppose signals from 'outside'.
So that is the paradox - if we are trying to be confident and strong by covering up any sign of being weak - we will become weak. Yet if we do not mind being "weak" - we won't make progress, since we won't have incentive to make progress. If we do not issue with something, we won't know what needs to be fixed. With trauma and exposure to toxic people - there is nothing wrong with us. There is nothing to fix inside us. Yet - we do have anxiety issues and panic and toxic shame and trauma triggers and fawning issues - so there is something that needs correction and a "fix". These after-effects stem from the abuse: evil people have chosen us as their target to attack. Evil people do this because they are evil, it is not because there is something wrong with us inside. When evil people are evil - we will develop reactions to abuse, similar to the body reacting to the virus. The fever, skin rash, immobility, pain, immunity issues - these are all effects of virus on our body - it is not that our body is abnormal and sick by itself - it means it is attacked by a virus. CBT will instruct us that we are sick as we are - that we have "cognitive distortions" and that our brain is hallucinating the "virus", that abuse does not exist. This way CBT will instruct us to develop toxic shame, deep core belief that we distrust ourselves, distrust our reactions, distrust our natural ways how we react to external stimuli - and CBT will instruct us to gaslight our reality and that we depend on other people to explain us what is reality. When in fact - we need immunity: deep core belief that we can trust our eyes and feelings and senses - what is happening that it is not hallucination, and that we can know that we can rely on our self worth and our brain and thinking patterns - even though when they are in survival mode due to abuse and exposure to narcissistic abuse, which CBT claim is non-existent for the socially anxious.
Even in Rejection Sensitivity - CBT will claim that our rejection can be imagination and real one - but in reality - we can clearly differentiate triggers and flashbacks with reality. When we have perceived threat of being rejected - it will feel differently than when someone is abusive and intrusive, unfair and when they make false accusations against us and when they are critical to us as a way to put us down and destroy our reputation. When we do not have self worth - we will soak up CBT explanations and we won't oppose to their definitions. Then we will become insecure in ourselves - and this is toxic shame.
When we have toxic shame - we will develop External referencing locus of control and this will end up as codependency and trauma bonding, more anxiety and more panic, since our explanation of reality will depend on other people - who will be toxic and dangerous - since only those types of people will parasite on someone who fawns to people.
The paradox of being vulnerable is placing us on two sides: to be passive and doing nothing hence being "weak", or that we oppose being "weak" by learning how to resist toxic people which is only possible by being monsters as they are. We will encounter stoic information about being silent and that we do not waste our energy to toxic people. Or another take is to be assertive and to express our opinion without rage - none of those work in real life. That's because toxic people are not problem with our persona or feelings or beliefs. Evil people abuse others because they are evil and have agenda or they simply feel good when they torture others.
So instead of being vulnerable or being strong - I would rather work on awareness - so that we know what is going on. Similar to learning about a virus - so that we know what is the best way to avoid catching a disease as preventive measure or learning how to make our body immune so that it can destroy virus without destroying our body in the process of extermination.
I would focus on a belief that we must be silent in order not to spend energy on narcissistic bait - where toxic people will insult others in order to elicit emotional reaction which they harness later when we react in drama to their drama. The real problem is our toxic shame which is already inside us. This means - when we are in contact with someone toxic - our panic reactions will come out, we won't be able to talk even if we want to. We will be in survival mode and amygdala hijacking - so we will temporary lose memory and ability to come up with wit and thoughtful response. Instead - we will be triggered into Freeze and Fawn. Socially anxious will always go into silence - because if we would have chosen Fight response - we would talk and express our emotions - even in dysfunctional way- and this way we would eventually learn to express ourselves all the time - and with time social anxiety would be replaced with some other disorders such as Borderline where we would be stuck in drama. But the social anxiety would be gone. Social anxiety itself is being silent and not expressing ourselves. That is what gives birth to free reign of inner critic inside us - which will activate rumination and intrusive thoughts and worry before the event, during the event and after the event. If there was no problems, our inner critic will dismiss such event as fluke and focus on the next potential catastrophe or it will replay past incidents.
So I would focus on talking and expressing ourselves. This is one barrier that we need to look at. Due to past trauma and exposure to emotional abuse - we learned to be silent and to fix other people and to be focused on their drama. When we try to fix others - we won't be able to criticize them back and give honest facts - since most abusive people will react in anger when the truth is presented to them.
When we shut up, when we are silent, even with good intentions such as not rocking the boat and not engaging in narcissistic bait - we are unwittingly creating no boundaries ambient. And that is what will attract toxic people over and over again. We might cut contact, relocate - only to find new pests that we attract like moth to a flame. This happens because we do not have boundaries. With self help and CBT we get wrong definitions of boundaries. We are being told that having boundaries means explaining and interpreting and having a presentation to someone who is toxic, pathological liar and delusional and someone who cannot process the reality nor truth. So of course this CBT advice will not work in real life. Boundaries are everything that will come to life when we speak up. Our words will create boundaries. Words don't have to be perfect. They don't even have to address the problem. With social anxiety we are simply silent all the time. We do not express our thoughts, we don't speak up our truth, our objections - due to programming and punishments before. When we do not speak up -we also never express our dislikes. Dislikes were also punished in dysfunctional ambient when we were growing up - so we were punished when we would say something we do not like, we were mocked and bullied because we rejected something over and over again. When we do not voice out our dislikes - there are no boundaries, and we automatically become pushover and toxic people will sniff it out and exploit us. When we do speak up - they will have perfect reasons why we are wrong - and we will shut up and never mention it again. When we learn about narcissistic abuse -we learn that narcissistic predatory personalities will always accuse their target of some false allegations and false accusations. Their accusations will be based on their hunch, intuition, imagination, delusion which appear real in their heads, something that is not measurable, it is not quantifiable, it cannot be evaluated, proven or disproven in scientific way - and they will feel entitled to be the ones who explain what is wrong. And since we were programmed in childhood to obey and fix other people's real or imagined problems - instead of speaking up and seeking the truth - we will automatically try to fix problems which they create out of nothing. We will be healthy and follow ethics and moral standards - that we fix our mistakes - and toxic people will always find mistakes and something wrong that we did. Then we will end up in hamster wheel of chasing their approval and validation - which satisfies their narcissistic supply needs. The only way out is speaking.
When we naturally speak out, when we are honest and authentic, when we no longer cover up "bad" parts of ourselves (our errors, mistakes, flaws and imperfections) - when we voice it out - we won't attract toxic people in our private lives, in our private space - since narcissists seek those who carry toxic shame inside them. Carrying toxic shame means feeling contaminated whenever there is some kind of anger or error occurring.
We heal toxic shame by embracing our "bad" parts that we believe are wrong and stupid and anything but perfect. We will notice that when we are silent - we imagine the perfect ideal way to talk and how life ought to be - so when we start to voice out our opinion, when we start to express ourselves - we will notice that we have a lot of errors, again and again, some we will repeat and never learn to correct them because we don't know how. This takes self worth to take care of bad parts of ourselves which need care and compassion from ourselves, patience and parenting - instead of invalidation and suppressing and ignoring. This part of sticking up for our clumsy and embarrassing parts of our Self is the true definition of being vulnerable. When we accept our imperfections and clumsiness and errors - we won't get triggered into survival mode anymore - and this means we will have more energy and focus on actually being better - and that is the paradox:
Carl Rogers: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself, just as I am, then I can change.”
Real liberation comes not from glossing over or repressing painful states of feeling, but only from experiencing them to the full. Carl Jung
Carl Jung Psychology and Philosophy 🧠, TWITTER: The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.
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2023.06.04 19:37 fluffybear312 30 minutes a day
I have got about 30 minutes a day to workout. I was thinking doing full body 6x a week. Does this seem ok? I’ve been going back and fourth because I don’t know what would work best.
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2023.06.04 19:36 CriticalCherry3979 Could I be experiencing OSDD?
I have been doing research on OSDD due to having a special interest in psychology, and I wanted some advice on whether some things I experience could be plurality or are normal for the disorders I already have. If it is relevant, I am twenty years old.
For context, I have ADHD, Autism, OCD, Dyscalculia, and Social Phobia.
The discussion of trauma is not until the end of the post and the beginning and end are clearly marked:
I will begin with discussing my memory. I am notorious for remembering basically nothing. Before the recent months, I have always assumed this to be my ADHD. However, it is more the way I do not remember that is making me question this. Generally, I experience what one may refer to as 'greyout amnesia' perhaps(?) I have a general idea of what happened to this body, but I can not remember it in any specific detail; moreso, it is as if I am given a list of facts that happened and a general sense of being there. I could tell you what I did in order, but I do not physically remember it (or-- I do remember it, but it feels like I was not there). That being said, it is like that with a lot of my memories unless I was directly just doing it, so it can be hard to say for sure whether this would indicate anything of relevance.
I do, however constantly experience dissociation in both depersonalization and derealization. I will very frequently find myself feeling as if I am not in my own body. It is a common occurrence to peer at myself in the mirror and find that I do not recognize myself. It is the same body and same face that I have always had, and I do recognize this fact, but it does not feel like it is mine. I have the same feeling with looking at photos of myself. However, it is important to note that I do not always feel this way. There have been times where I was comfortable and familiar with my face and body, but lately it has not been that way for months. For derealization, it feels like I am not actually real or living in this world. This happens to me a lot and it is a general sense of 'there's no way I'm real' even if I know technically I should be. After I am done with these dissociative episodes, the memories do not appear to me as an episode, but as they were. As if I actually was not myself and/or real for those moments.
Another thing that I experience in regards to not feeling like this is my body is what I have been referring to as 'age dysphoria'. It is exactly what it sounds like; I have phases where I feel very much so like a child (in particular-- the child I used to be) perhaps around age ten. During these periods I will look in the mirror and feel completely dysphoric about appearing so old. This also manifests itself in feeling like my body is too big or that my appearance is much older than it is supposed to be. I will see my hairy legs and think "how are they so hairy... this feels wrong... I'm not supposed to be this old", or I will lay in my bed and be uncomfortable about how much space I occupy. I experienced this just last night, yet I can not recall if I have felt this before because of my memory.
When it comes to possible alters this part is very confusing to me, because everything I experience is not exactly clear. What I do know, is that I have at least two particular versions of myself that I tend to switch between at random intervals. These personality changes usually cooccur with finding a new hyperfixation, and so I always assumed my personality heavily depended on those. Almost everything about me tends to change depending on the type of hyperfixation I have (gender, sexuality, feelings about myself). Right now, my hyperfixation is a children's cartoon and I have been feeling very child-like. I commonly will talk in language too young for my age and broken sentences, even if I technically know how to say it correctly. On the flip side, my last hyperfixation was a media for more mature audiences due to the violence in it. During this time I was definitely feeling more adult-like. This also manifests in periods of complete asexuality and being uncomfortable with adult topics while I am hyperfixated on something child-like.
In addition to these feelings, my thoughts do talk to themselves on occasion. I am confused mostly because it is not exactly a separate voice, but instead the same voice of consciousness. However, I will say there is the capability of two voices at once. Usually I can sing a song in my head and still have a consciousness stream going as normal. Once again, this was presumed to be ADHD. But usually, it is all my same inner voice (more commonly known as thoughts) that think against one another.
For example, I may think "why did you do that?" and then I would answer "I don't know." OR, sometimes I get responses in what may be considered 'the back of my mind'? These are usually very short responses and do not say much if anything. I may say "should I do ___?" and then I will sometimes hear a small "yes" or "no." Usually I would refer to this as intuition, or, when I was younger and religious, I would sometimes think of it as God's voice. Whatever it is, it is clear that I am not deciding these thoughts. They make themselves.
[THIS IS THE TRAUMA PART. DO NOT READ IF IT MAY BE TRIGGERING]
The biggest confusion I have had is with the prerequisite of trauma for the disorder. I know I did not have an easy childhood, but to me it does not seem 'bad enough' to cause OSDD (?). A lot of people consider me very traumatized, but I seem to not care too much about what has happened to me. That being said, I know a lot of people with these types of disorders do not remember a lot of their childhood due to the amnesia, so what do I know.
What I do know, however, is that I never really had a sense of security as a kid. Until my parent's divorced (around age seven) they were constantly fighting. My father has always been a yeller, and will find every excuse to use his loud and booming voice against you. I know I was spanked very hard up until age thirteen. When my father got angry, it was instant terror. He would scream, and throw stuff, and grab you very hard. If you tried to run to your bedroom and lock him out, he would get even angrier. Sometimes he would be so mad that he would rip doors off their hinges and scream at you so loud that you'd instantly zone-out. If my older brother or I made him angry we would immediately be bent over his knee and smacked extremely hard.
My living conditions were always dirty, and we constantly moved around the city at least once every two years. I did not have many (if any) friends because I was autistic and people thought I was weird. These facts were a constant throughout my entire childhood.
After my parent's divorce, I lived with my mother until age fifteen. She also yelled, but more out of stress rather than anger. My mother was very disabled (living with undiagnosed Autism, ADHD, CPTSD, OCD, and Bipolar Disorder as well as diagnosed fibromyalgia) and so she did not do much but sit around. She did not have a job and we lived off of child support alone. Food insecurity was pretty prevalent. We could not afford many things that may be considered valuable or sometimes necessary to a child's development. In addition to this, since my mother was so incapable of parenting, I had to step up as the (previously) eldest daughter. I had been parenting my youngest siblings from a very young age. My older brother stayed away from everyone and was constantly locked in his room in the basement. Mostly, the kids were my responsibility if my mom could not do anything (which was frequent).
Ever since I was very young I was completely emotionally neglected. I actually can not recall being told 'I love you' very much at all. I was constantly considered a bother and an inconvenience and spent a lot of time alone as a result. Every time I am rejected I feel as if I am ten years old again and my parents are telling me to shut up for being so annoying. On the upside, I was more than content to spend time with myself as my mind is always entertaining on its own. However, it did feel like I was there for everyone and nobody was there for me.
My mother was also not a very mentally well person in general. She would constantly emotionally manipulate us and tell us things nobody should ever tell their kids. She would go into detail about her traumatic childhood abuse and tell us kids that she would end her life if she did not have us to take care of (even going as far as to describe how she would do it in graphic detail).
I worked a job as young as possible and hardly ever attended school due to being depressed since I was about twelve. I missed a very substantial portion of my middleschool and highschool education.
When I was fifteen, my mother was arrested for distribution of child pornography. She had kept secret cameras in our bedrooms and bathrooms to send footage to her pedophile boyfriend who lived in a different country. The brunt of the physical sexual abuse was committed on my younger sister who was nine at the time, and, to my knowledge, I was never physically touched by her; however, she did very much groom me with topics I should not have been familiar with at such an age. I remember her constantly telling me to 'go masturbate' (worded as "touch yourself") everytime I was stressed out because it would 'help'. Knowing what I know now, it is clear she just wanted me on camera for her partner.
That aside, when my mother was arrested I moved back in with my father. It was not easy. My father does not believe in mental illness very much, and he was always quick to gaslight me on my emotions. He was still prone to incredible anger as well. Mostly, though, now directed at my younger brother (the new scapegoat now that I was too old to scare into submission). He is very alike me as a child (he has autism and ADHD) and I would constantly get flashbacks to things he said to me as a kid everytime he yelled at my brother.
Needless to say, there was constant yelling in the house. I would have to cover my ears and pretend I did not hear it because I was so petrified due to experiencing the same things very young. Despite that, I was still in charge of emotionally raising my siblings at this house because my father has always been very distant emotionally. I was always the first person to rush in after my siblings got yelled at and comfort them. Yet still, I never had anybody to care for me.
When I turned eighteen, I moved out to university and I thrived very much. However, I did get dependent on weed for a good two years.
I had to drop out due to being completely incapable of functioning as an adult, and now live with my father currently. I will say, he is not as bad as he used to be due to a visit from Child Protective Services.
That is all the relevant information I can think of for my childhood. If any of that was enough to cause some sort of disorder, then perhaps my findings may have some value.
[END OF TRAUMA]
This is all the information I can link to maybe having an alter-based disorder. That being said, I only know so much. This is why I have made this post; it is my hope that something I said today can be explained.
I would like to hear the opinions of people who do experience OSDD and what they make of this. I will be happy to answer any questions you may have for me.
Thank you for your help.
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2023.06.04 19:33 dontlietom3 These examples of Near Death Experiences show that if one thing doesn't work, then they are willing to change tactics until something works, so that eventually you accept going back (they can use Jesus, holograms of your dad, etc...)
"He told me that it was not my time to enter into my heavenly home but had a mission to fulfill and my life was going to be very hard. That I would go through many terrible experiences to the point of wanting to commit suicide but if I committed suicide I would not be allowed to come home. He told me that I would be watched over and protected, kept safe. If I would get through this mission I would be allowed to return home. -- Don C Then I noticed I was in a tunnel & moving toward a bright light. When suddenly a voice told me, "Its not your time, you must go back, you haven't completed your missions & purposes in life, yet". -- Shalom G "The light told me without words that I still on a mission on earth, but without saying what it was" -- Guillem BC **
"My three angels, still perplexed as to how to get me back to my body - did not like my response of, "I don't want to go back down there; it is painful". "You Must! Your Mission is Not Yet Complete!". -- Mark
"This is when I was called, and returned to the blue place in which I started, where the Angel Gabriel said to me: "Miguel, you have to go back, there is a mission for you to accomplish". I said to him: "No, brother, I'm not going back, I'm here now and I'm not about to move from here, I'm not leaving". He said, "You have a wife and children". I replied that I did not remember them, and he made a gesture with his hand, and a seated woman appeared, on a kind of white chair, praying and weeping, holding my diary in her hands. I drew near, saw her and said to the Angel: "Now I remember her, she is my wife". He asked me if I wanted to see my children, and I said yes. With another gesture of the hands he took me to a really poor district, with unpaved streets and mud. I was taken near a bus-stop, where there were grey concret storm-drains. We came to a house under construction, or unfinished. The floor was of earth, the walls had no covering (without any finish), the bath also half finished and on the patio there were two children playing, covered in mud. Following another gesture, I approached them and could see that yes, I recognized them, they were my children. The angel said, "You have to go back", to which I replied, "No way, now that I'm here, I'm not going back there". I said, "What if the next time I don't end up in this place, better to stay for good, no point getting here if I'm going to leave". At this moment I heard a strong, loud voice, speaking in a very special way, with love, affection but also with authority, which said to me: "Miguel, you must go back". I looked all around me, up, down, left and right, but no one had spoken to me. Then I asked "Who is speaking to me?" And I again heard this voice saying to me, "I am the true and faithful witness, you have to go back". I said, "Jesus?" and he answered, "Yes, you must go back". I said, "I'm ready, Lord. Thy will be done". -- Miguel RP
"The light being said, 'No, you have a mission that you must do.' I didn't know what the mission was but I said 'Yes' to returning back to the earth". -- Steve L
"I look back and see that entity, calm, faceless, with womanly ways, who tells me: “Wait, what are you doing? You can’t decide yourself the time when you leave, you have a mission to fulfill, no way they will let you leave that world this way. You have to go back and do what you have to do.” “Never,” did I answer, “never shall I go back. And you won’t change my mind, who are you to tell me what I have to do? What is this mission or purpose you are talking about?” “Just follow me.” did she say insistently but with a softness to which the most precious silk in this world does not compare..."But what mission are you talking about? I don’t understand anything to what you are saying, I don’t want to go back there. This loneliness is too deep and agonizing! You are going to answer, tell me what this mission is, who you are, who am I?” A voice outmatching the meeting group instantly settled the matter, no one would have even wanted or thought of whispering or sighing, “You’ll understand in due time, no answer would content you. Let time act, be strong, don’t doubt and you will know. Answers will be given in due time, it is up to you to capture them. Nothing is given for free to the knowledge keys keeper.” -- Pascal C
"The gate itself was unremarkable, no pearls or anything like that. Two robed men were speaking to each other. They never addressed or looked directly at me, but they were discussing me. I knew the two men were St. Peter and St. Gabriel. I could not hear their entire conversation but I knew they were discussing whether it was my time to be admitted to heaven. St. Gabriel was telling St. Peter that I had not read The Gospel of Mark yet. St. Gabriel was holding a huge open book I assumed to be a Bible and they looked at it. It seemed as if Gabriel was convincing Peter I could not enter heaven yet but at the same time I knew St. Peter didn't want to let me in at that time. I was just an observer. They never looked at me and I did not interact with them. I woke up back in my body in the emergency room after I heard that I needed to read Mark. ....That one sentence St. Gabriel spoke, "But she hasn't read The Gospel of Mark" seemed not only to be very very clear words but a strong feeling accompanied his words. It is hard to explain." -- Trish R
"She told me that my mission here upon the earth was not completed, and I would have to go back she informed me. I protested and begged to stay where she was, but to no avail. She did say I would be allowed to stay the next time I came there. Not that I could or would stay but she used the word "allowed." Immediately after she had placed these things into my mind I was sent back". -- Sylvia R
"The third time, I really didn't want to come back and then my Dad met me. He told me that he didn't raise a quitter, and that I needed to go back - that I had a mission that most people would never be given the opportunity to be blessed with. At the same time, on this side, I heard a man that I loved dearly tell me "please don't leave me". I heard him as plain as day. His voice was very clear. I chose to come back at that point". -- Pamela B
These are from Wayne Bush's website (the afterlife researcher) but he took them from nderf.org which is a popular website where people share their NDEs.
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2023.06.04 19:32 xtremexavier15 TSROTI 4 (pt 2)
The episode resumed with a shot panning down from yet another shot of the moon onto Dave, Scarlett, and DJ walking through the pet cemetery.
"Don't you think Katie should've been back by now?" DJ asked.
"Hey guys," Katie called out, gaining the attention of the three, "I think I found something over there!" The shot cut to a large headstone. "See?" the sweet girl said as the shot came in for a close-up, detailing both a skull mark and a date engraved below it. "June 06, 1806," Katie read. "That's 6, 6, 18, 6, right?"
"Yeah!" DJ said with a smile. "Good eye."
"Katie is pretty resourceful," DJ said to the camera. "Sure she doesn't have her tablet, but at least she's helping the team."
"Look," the camera cut back to the headstone's close-up as Dave pointed a finger at the skull mark's oddly-shaped nose hole, "there's a keyhole too."
The shot cut back out to show the whole group as DJ inserted the key, turned it, and was promptly flung backward out of sight by a large, spring-loaded coffin bursting out of a trap door in the ground, much to the Maggots' shock.
"Look at this!" Scarlett called out. "We got flashlights!" The camera cut to the inside of the now-opened coffin, revealing several flashlights standing on a shelf in it.
"Awesome," Dave smiled, as DJ rejoined them. "Let's grab them."
Dave scooped up the flashlights, then ran off with Scarlett.
"You're strong, right?" Katie talked to DJ before running. "Make sure to put that coffin back so the Rats won't know where to look."
DJ lingered long enough to close the coffin and shove it back into its hole, and was about to catch up with his teammates, but was pulled back by the spider's string and eventually got taken away by the spider.
The camera panned in the opposite direction, eventually stopping on a large tree. After a moment, Geoff leaned out from behind it. He decided to make a wolf sound in order to signal his Rat members, who saw what he was doing and were visibly disgusted.
Leshawna smacked the boy. "What are you doing?"
"Using animal calls to signal you?" Geoff answered. "Team Maggot found the souvenirs on the tombstone over there."
"Wow…nice work," Scott said as he slowly reached out to put their key into the keyhole.
"I want to let you know before you open the coffin-" Geoff tried to warn Scott as the latter opened the coffin, but got flung off-screen, making him groan in pain. "-make sure to not get flung."
"That would've been good to hear earlier," Scott looked at his face for injuries angrily, but got his mouth wrapped up by a spider web, before being pulled away by the spider in a flash.
"Scott got taken away!" Leshawna freaked out and held Geoff by his shoulders. "Let's finish the part of the area and get the heck out of here!"
The footage flashed to Scarlett and Dave standing before the entrance to a cave, the mouth flanked on either side by flags bearing the team logos.
"Welcome to your final destination!" Chris announced over an unseen loudspeaker, laughing evilly before adding "The clue is just inside the entrance...aaand down the tunnel...into total darkness. Good luck! Yooouuu'll neeeeed iiit!"
Dave gulped and Scarlett snatched a flashlight from him. "Follow my lead," she told him as she turned it on and walked into the cave.
"Wait," Dave said with a hint of anxiousness, "Where's Katie and DJ?"
"They probably fell behind," Scarlett answered back, her words echoing from inside the cave.
Dave lingered for a second. "Go explore the cave. I'll get DJ and Katie."
The scene flashed inside and Scarlett peered around with her flashlight. "This location hasn't seen many good days," she said as she noticed what appeared to be the skeleton of an intern suspended in a web, a note taped to its tattered plaid shirt. "And there's the clue," Scarlett remarked, looking closely at the note then reaching out and lightly touching the web. "By hook or by crook, the end is near if you look," she read.
"This writing is simply telling me to locate the finish line by any means necessary-!" She was interrupted by a line of webbing shooting down from the ceiling and wrapping around her body and head, and she struggled to break free before she was pulled up and away.
The scene cut to a close-up of Dave's sneakers as he ran through the graveyard. The camera cut outward as he ran up to Katie, who were wandering the area with flashlights in her hand, and said "Hey, Scarlett and I found the cave. Where's DJ?"
"He hasn't arrived," Katie said warily. "The spider likely got him."
"That cave must be where the spider is," Dave theorized. "And if the spider took our teammates, that's where we'll find them."
"Let's go with that then," Katie said, trying to seem determined but coming across as scared.
The scene flashed back to the cave entrance. "Scarlett!" Dave called out as the shot cut to him and Katie standing just inside, flashlights already turned on. "Scarlett, where are you?"
"Um, you might want to look over there," Katie said as she pointed out Scarlett's discarded flashlight.
"Well that's not good," Dave said nervously.
"I'm starting to question how we were gonna win this challenge," Dave admitted. "Katie and me aren't exactly capable of fighting off a giant spider."
"Look over there!" Katie piped up as the static cut away to the two Maggots walking through the cave. The camera panned ahead along their beams of light to show a creepy skull-like rock with several metal hooks sticking out of it, and the two smiled.
"Those must be the last souvenirs," Dave realized, rushing over to the skull-shaped rock. "We must still be in the lead."
"Look out!" Katie cried out in sudden panic.
"What?" Dave looked back nervously just as a line of web shot down from the ceiling and quickly wrapped him up, encasing just about everything but his head. He moaned before getting hauled up by the spider. It hissed at him menacingly and he screamed in terror, and with a hiss the spider tossed him to the side.
He landed on a larger web suspended in the ceiling, and the shot zoomed out to reveal that the others who'd been captured were within – Scarlett, Scott, DJ, Anne Maria, Sierra, Molly, Trent, and Sammy.
"Who landed in the web now?" Anne Maria asked.
"It's just me," Dave said. "Dave."
"At this rate, it's up to the ones who didn't get captured to figure something out," DJ pointed out.
"The plus side to not being a cartoon character? I don't have to worry about getting spider-like powers," Dave confessed.
The shot cut back down to the cave floor, Katie still looking up nervously just as Geoff and Leshawna finally arrived on the scene.
"There's the next souvenir! And our teammates! And a gigantic spider!" Geoff pointed out his surroundings to his teammate.
"Well, I guess we found the right place," Leshawna commented as she went ahead.
"So what should our plan be?" Geoff sprinted towards Leshawna, but tripped and collided into Leshawna, sending both flat on the ground.
They instantly got wrapped together by the spider's stringed web. "I'm starting to think that we're a bad duo," Leshawna frowned dryly.
"Geoff's sweeter than honey, but he needs to think more before he acts," Leshawna stated. "I'll cut him some slack since we didn't land in the web."
"Katie! Go grab the hook and we'll win!" Molly ordered.
"Okay. I'm on it," Katie went to take off a hook.
"But we're still trapped in this web with no way to get out," DJ tried to protest.
"Uh, DJ," Dave realized something that caught his eye.
"Huh?" DJ replied back.
"The spider is coming towards us!" Dave shouted, causing everyone to freak out in a panic as the giant mutant arachnid crawled towards them, its fangs dripping green venom.
"Someone get us outta here!" Anne Maria shouted, causing Katie to stop in her tracks.
"Everyone is in danger," Katie gasped. "I'm coming to help."
"You should get the hook first!" Scarlett tried to advise her teammate.
The spider was hissing right at the people in front of the web. "Somebody do something!" Trent yelled out as the camera panned over to Dave's scared face.
And then, with a burst of adrenaline, Dave burst free of his silken cocoon and tackled the giant spider clear off the web. They swung away on a line of silk attaching the spider to the ceiling, and the normal guy began to pound furiously on the back of the mutant's abdomen.
"Adrenaline can really get your blood pumping," Dave explained in an impressed tone of voice.
Meanwhile, Katie was shown climbing the tree that had the spider webs attached, but fell back down. "I can't reach the top!"
"Really?" Molly questioned her.
"Sorry, Maggots," Katie apologized. "I don't have enough muscle power to reach you."
"If that's the case, then go and get the hook," Scarlett demanded.
"But I don't want to leave you behind!" Katie stood firm.
"You need to win! You're the only member of the team who isn't trapped in a giant web!" DJ said supportively.
"I'll do it, but I'll come back to help you. I promise that," Katie declared bravely before grabbing her hook and ran to the zipline.
Leshawna was struggling to get to the hook due to her situation of being stuck with Geoff.
"Wow! I'm surprised you can hold us up together, even if we're trapped," Geoff marveled at her strength.
"I came to win, not to quit!" Leshawna said determinedly before tugging a hook off the skull rock.
The shot quickly cut to Dave and the spider, the boy now jumping up and down on the mutant's back.
"You spiders have been a big pain in the neck ever since I was young!" Dave confronted the mutant spider while the shot cut to the stalactite the spider's line was attached to, the rock beginning to crack.
Katie attached her hook to the zipline. "I'm ready." She took off screaming afterwards.
"I won't let you bother me anymore!" Dave continued his attack on the spider.
With one final jump the silk line snapped, sending him and the spider to the floor and causing rocks to fall from the ceiling. Those stuck in the web screamed as dust filled the air.
"Go go go!" Geoff hastily commanded Leshawna as he saw the place crumbling. Leshawna quickly hooked them to the zipline and they took off.
There was an ominous snap followed by thuds and grunts. The dust dissipated to reveal that all the captives – as well as the web itself – had fallen to the cave floor.
Several groans filled the air as everyone tried to recover, the silken prisons beginning to unravel.
The scene cut to near-complete darkness, lit only by the eyes of some unknown creatures – and three known ones, based on their screams. Katie zipped through the darkness screaming, with Leshawna and Geoff zipping past a few seconds later screaming as well, and soon enough made it to the other side – a smaller tunnel in the side of a cliff face, with the zip line tied to the end of a small stalactite on an overhang just outside. Katie arrived first and dropped when her hook slammed into the end of the line; Geoff and Leshawna arrived moments later, and landed on top of the Maggot girl when their hook slammed to a stop as well.
The shot panned down to them as they all groaned in pain.
"Looks like both teams made it out," Chris chimed in, walking up from the left and looking the three over. "That's something I did not expect at all."
"So who won the challenge?" Katie asked after standing up. "I did arrive before the Rats did."
"Today's winning team iiiiss," Chris announced, pausing for effect, "the Rats!"
"What?" Katie asked. "But I arrived here first!"
"Remember when I said stick together, 'cause there'd be a penalty for each team member you lost?" Chris placed a hand on Katie's shoulder. "Yeah, you lost your whole team. The same would go for Leshawna, but at least she brought someone with her. So, the Rats totally win!"
"I was wrong, Geoff," Leshawna cheered for her team. "We do make a good team."
Katie was distraught to lose. "I knew I should've stayed back and gotten my teammates down!"
"So true," Chris replied without a care.
The scene cut back to the cave as Dave approached the camera coughing. He looked down and gasped. The perspective inverted and the camera panned across what looked like a canister of artificial webbing, nuts and bolts and the tattered remains of a spider costume, and the all-too-familiar legs and torso and arms and groaning head of Izzy.
The psycho hose beast groaned before shouting "Boo!" and laughed silly.
"Turns out it was just one of the old cast members in a spider costume," Dave explained in the confessional. "Though it makes sense in context. Izzy and Spider-Man are both annoying, but at least they can be funny sometimes." he quipped. "I'm still not a huge fan of spiders, but I can at least tolerate them now."
The scene cut to a shot of the island at night, the camera zooming in then cutting to the six Mutant Maggots at the campfire pit – Dave and Katie together on the left side of the back row; Anne Maria and Scarlett on the front left; Molly on the back right; and DJ on the front right.
"Team Maggot, welcome to your second elimination ceremony," Chris began. "I would comment on your collective failures and mistakes throughout the challenge, but it speaks for itself." The shot shows some of the Maggots either disappointed or shooting daggers at Chris.
"Just pass out the marshmallows already," Dave grumbled.
"Someone's eager," Chris smiled in satisfaction before seeing that Chef wasn't present. "Where's Chef with the Marshmallow of Loserdom?"
Elsewhere, Chef was tied to a post in frustration as a number of plungers were stuck to his face. The camera panned out to show that Izzy, currently holding a bow while wearing a tribal headband, was the one responsible for his fate. She laughed after hitting Chef one too many times with the plungers, much to Chef's annoyance.
"If Chef isn't here, does that mean the elimination ceremony is canceled?" Anne Maria raised her hand.
"Heck no. I'm still gonna send one of your butts home," Chris announced. "And the person who's leaving is...," he said with an impish smile, pausing for effect.
"Wait, what?" Katie said in confusion.
"I was kidding all along!" Chris laughed. "The elimination ceremony is canceled. Not because of Chef not being here. But because this is a non-elimination episode."
"So if none of us would be taking the Hurl of Shame, then what was the point of even having us here?" Scarlett asked.
"I just love tension," Chris answered with a smug grin.
"Awesome!" Katie squealed cutely. "I was afraid I would be eliminated!"
"Whatever," Chris said, rolling his eyes. "Kinda disappointing no one's going for a catapult ride, though." He looked over to the right, and an idea dawned upon him. "I think I know who would be willing to."
The scene flashed to the Dock of Shame, Izzy in the catapult's bucket with Chris standing nearby.
"This catapult is amazing, but why am I here?" Izzy asked the host.
"Because somebody needs to get hurled tonight," Chris explained as he walked over to the catapult's lever. "Plus, you seem like the type to enjoy this kind of stuff."
"You know me so well. Now press that lever," Izzy grinned before Chris pulled the lever and launched her cheering loudly into the night sky.
"Wanna know who I'm gonna catapult off the island next?" he turned and asked the camera as the capstone theme began to play. "You'll have to come back and find out, right here on Total! Drama! Revenge, of the Island!"
(Roll the Credits)
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2023.06.04 19:31 NiveaSkinCream What can I do to alleviate dysphoria?
Ive been on HRT for almost three years, and ive also had SRS. And im still really dysphoric. The HRT didnt really do much in terms of dysphoria.
I dont regret transitioning at all, but im getting really frustrated at how my dysphoria just doesnt seem to get much better. Social transition helped me a lot more than physical did honestly. The dysphoria i feel now, compared to before i started HRT, is about the same, it hasnt really changed much, i still get good days that are about on par, and i get really bad days about on par.
I hated my body before, and i hate my body now. Im not super masculine and im able to pass if i exclusively wear female clothing and padded bras. But i still feel like shit. Even if others perceive me as female, that doesnt make me not hate how my body looks. All i ever see when i go outside is all the people that i could be looking like if i wouldnt have been refused transitioning when i first came out as a preteen, and all i see when i look at my own body is something that isnt *my* body, but a body that my parents forced onto me. Every body part is a constant reminder of how my body was changed against my will by other people.
Ive tried getting help from other places, ive been trying to get mental help for close to 5 years now, nobody wants to help me. Dysphoria isnt a mental illness anymore, therefore psych clinics dont take in trans people here, but also dont tell me where to go. And when i try to go in through other diagnoses, im either told theyre too much work, or not bad enough to warrant help. Ive been referred to 6 different psych clinics as well as been outpatient at a ward, and numerous municipal offers, and all of them ended up rejecting me.
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2023.06.04 19:30 dudovski13 Not interested in politics
Dear Russian citizens,
I had a funny conversation in sauna (Yeah) today. After a small talk Russian citizen asks me if I’m into politics. Adding “I’m apolitical, Btw“ to the question. (Probably attempting to declare that he’s the part of woke tech hipster-pacifist community, therefore, should not be insulted just based on citizenship). I’m like what a coincidence. Me too. But somehow your state manages to ruin most of my days and somehow drug me into “Politics”. Not to talk about my childhood.
This is how state works - It is a simply the union of people. And they chose to have a representing body - governing and taking all the gov decisions. (It will be a president, parliament, council, dictator, autocrat whoever or whatever). And yes, you are responsible for what your state is doing. And yes, authoritarian regimes are somewhat “choice”. Consequences of a lot of “Choices” during decades and result of “apolitical society”.
All US citizens are responsible for Afghanistan, Iraq etc. I’m responsible as a Georgian for particular totally unnecessary and violent acts in Abkhazia, German took the responsibility for Nazism and so on.
Ooh we have a dictator what can we do. Anything you can do, maybe ?! Convince 1 person in your whole life and it’s still better than whining.
Individualism? I hate groups and unions. You’ll hardly find anyone who hates labeling and identifying people as part of a group first more than me. But this is something you simply can’t escape. This is a social contract set long long before you were born. Who has more power than Russian people themselves to change political agenda of Russia than Russians?! I can’t do anything . I cant vote, i cant protest in Moscow, I don’t even know Russian and even If I post in social media i have no power over society. So YES it is your responsibility to stop that cruel machine.
Just say sorry already. Or express that you’re concerned what your state does. That’s the least you can do.
And please be as “Political” as you can.
1)South Osetia doesn’t exist 2)Russia and Nazi germany were alies. SSSR went against hitler just because he attacked first. 3) SSSR was not a “Peaceful Union”. It was just as big of cruelty as Nazi germany. If not more 4) No, Georgia is not only some dacha for you to just visit when you want and how you want. 5) Our government is bunch of cowards who lost all the dignity.
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2023.06.04 19:30 Oscar_G_13 Yea its in the head but the head controls the body
This will probably get buried and flamed to oblivion, but I remember a long ass time ago when I had anxiety on a daily. At first, when it was happening, I kinda shook myself away from it and it worked for a time. Kinda snapped myself out of it by talking sense into myself. I brushed it off because I didn't want to let anyone know, including my doctor, and tried to cope with it alone. That was stupid because it only got worse and after leaving it untreated, it had its foot on my back. Id wake up gasping for air because idk why, I felt like I was dying. At any given moment those creeping thoughts set in that tell you "you're about to die" and your body naturally responds by going into Fight Flight.
And I went from this complete extrovert to a closed off recluse because I was always afraid that an anxiety episode would come over me in public and I didn't want to embarass myself. My ego was bigger than my dick. I would even put myself to sleep as soon as it went dark (7:00ish PM) just so I wouldn't have to be up later at night because that's when the shitty type of anxiety sets in. Its 2:40AM and there's nobody around to talk you down, the "party" is over, all your friends and family are snoring at their homes, and you're wide awake, feeling crazy for even thinking about calling your friends so damn late and you don't want to dial 911 for the 12th time because they already look at you like you're nuts.
A perpetual state of mental anxiousness, fear, googling, confirmation of fears through bullshit SEO tactics, the body reacts, the mind is reinforced and round and round we go.
DONT GOOGLE YOUR SYMPTOMS! Spoiler alert: "you're already dead"
You can be on top of the world and none of that really helps us escape that mental trap. Yes, its in the head but the head controls the body(i did that thing they do in movies here) and because of that, sometimes we physically have to check out. That means no talking, no streaming, no social bullshit. Just a space to decompress and collect ourselves and that's cool.
What helped me was talking more about it. IDC if I got flamed, the more I spoke on it, the less power those thoughts had and now, I cant remember the last time I had an attack, but the fear of one is always there. Sorry for the Wall O' Text.
I hope this reaches people.
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2023.06.04 19:29 NotAMermaid27 I don't know what is happening or how it happened, but here's my story.
After eighteen years, I think I'm still a kid.
For some background, I'm a trans girl. And I had a good childhood! Though not as, y'know, a girl! I've been called pure, innocent, genuine, and other things. Childish, unable to clean after myself, having low attention, etc. I often do things like dance in public, go on edges of patches of grass and tiptoe as if I'm on a tightrope and one of my favorite activities is swinging.
I... Don't know how this happened, or what caused it. I'm a collaborative writer for minecraft roleplay, and I wanted mine and a friend's characters to be children again because I thought it'd be fun to RP out these two really strong pokémon trainers dealing with second childhood troubles and just having genuine fun. However, that didn't come to be. Fast forward a few years and due to it's time system being 13 years 'per IRL year, my character growing older while I freaked out more and more- combined with me wishing it'd change so I could write my story, despite it not showing any signs of doing so.
For two years, I've had this idea stuck in my head. I didn't know why it brought me such comfort until I started to dig into AGERE communities, learn about such things, etcetera. I admitted that I liked being treated and seen as a small child. I *wanted* to be seen as a small child. Someone to be cuddled, held, hugged, and loved. It's lead me to think that deep down, I'm still just a little girl that never got to grow up. That didn't get to be herself early on enough, and is now being thrown into the world of adults.
I don't want to work, but I have to. I don't want to study, but I have to. All I want to do is play games, think of cool story ideas with my friends, do *fun* things. None of the things adults do have any appeal to me, and the appeal of the freedom adults have is completely and utterly lost on me, despite my mom praising it.
My therapist says I likely have "Peter Pan Syndrome", that irrational fear of getting older that sent me on so many spirals even way back when I was six years old. I'm also diagnosed with Autism, ADHD and Gender Dysphoria. It happens that I may also have depression, though I'm on medication for that despite not having an official diagnosis.
So yeah that's my story. I don't know if I have age dysphoria, I don't feel that lost in my own body. But it's all very conflicting confusing feelings that I'm only now coming to terms with. I don't know if my chrono age is just too young for the signs to show up however, so that scares me a bit- it's not like being transgender where you can take a pill every day and be better.
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2023.06.04 19:26 Asleepfarm420 Resources for Relationship Abuse and Intimate Partner Violence
What is relationship abuse?
Relationship abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner. Abuse can be emotional, financial, sexual or physical and can include threats, isolation, and intimidation. Abuse tends to escalate over time. When someone uses abuse and violence against a partner, it is always part of a larger pattern of control. Warning signs of abuse
- Do you feel nervous around your partner?
- Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid your partner’s anger?
- Do you feel pressured by your partner when it comes to sex?
- Are you scared of disagreeing with your partner?
- Does your partner criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?
- Is your partner always checking up on you or questioning you about what you do without your partner?
- Does your partner control where you go or check the mileage on your car?
- Does your partner repeatedly and wrongfully accuse you of seeing or flirting with other people?
- Does your partner tell you that if you changed, they wouldn’t treat you like this?
- Does your partner’s jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family?
- Does your partner make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
- Has your partner ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
- Does your partner throw or break objects to intimidate you?
- Does your partner make you feel scared by driving too fast and refusing to slow down when you ask?
- Does your partner say, “I will kill myself if you break up with me” or “I will hurt/kill you if you break up with me”?
- Does your partner make excuses for the abusive behavior? For example: saying, “It’s because of alcohol or drugs,” or “I can’t control my temper,” or “I was just joking”?
- Does your partner brag about bullying or harming others or animals?
- Has your partner abused or killed your animals?
- Does your partner impose stereotypical gender roles or invalidate your gender identity?
Types of abuse: Physical abuse
is any intentional, unwanted contact with you or something close to your body, or any behavior that causes or has the intention of causing you injury, disability, or death.
Emotional abuse & verbal abuse
- Scratching, punching, biting, strangling, choking, or kicking.
- Throwing items at you like a phone, book, shoe, or plate.
- Pulling your hair.
- Pushing or pulling you, or forcibly grabbing your clothing.
- Threatening to use or using a gun, knife, box cutter, bat, mace, or other weapon against you.
- Touching any part of you without your permission or consent.
- Forcing you to have sex or perform a sexual act.
- Grabbing your face to make you look at them.
- Preventing you from leaving or forcing you to go somewhere.
includes non-physical behaviors such as threats, insults, constant monitoring or “checking in,” excessive texting, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, or stalking.
- Calling you names or putting you down.
- Telling you what to do or wear.
- Yelling or screaming at you.
- Intentionally embarrassing you in front of others or starting rumors about you.
- Preventing you from seeing or communicating with friends or family, or threatening to have your children taken away from you.
- Damaging your property (throwing objects, punching walls, kicking doors, etc.)
- Using online communities or communications to control, intimidate, or humiliate you.
- Blaming abusive or unhealthy behavior on you or your actions.
- Being jealous of outside relationships or accusing you of cheating.
- Stalking you or your loved ones.
- Threatening to harm you, your pets, or people in your life.
- Threatening to harm themselves to keep you from ending the relationship.
- Gaslighting you by pretending not to understand or refusing to listen to you; questioning your recollection of facts, events, or sources; trivializing your needs or feelings; or denying previous statements or promises.
- Making you feel guilty or immature when you don’t consent to sexual activity.
- Threatening to expose personal details, such as your sexual orientation or immigration status.
refers to any behavior that pressures or coerces someone to do something sexually that they don’t want to do. It can also refer to behavior that impacts a person’s ability to control their sexual activity or the circumstances in which sexual activity takes place, including oral sex, rape, or controlling reproductive methods and choices.
- Unwanted kissing or touching.
- Unwanted rough or violent sexual activity.
- Refusing to use condoms or restricting someone’s access to birth control.
- Preventing someone from using protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs.)
- Sexual contact with someone intoxicated from drugs or alcohol, unconscious, asleep, or otherwise unable to give clear and informed consent.
- Threatening, pressuring, or otherwise forcing someone to have sex or perform sexual acts.
- Using sexual insults toward someone.
often operates in more subtle ways than other forms of abuse, but it can be just as harmful to those who experience it.
Modern conditions of stark economic inequality mean that financial security is directly tied to our health and wellbeing. No one has the right to use money or how you choose to spend it to control your actions or decisions, and no one should control your ability to work.
Digital dating abuse
- Giving you an allowance or monitoring what you buy.
- Depositing your paycheck into an account you can’t access.
- Preventing you from seeing shared bank accounts or records.
- Forbidding you from working or limiting the hours you do.
- Preventing you from going to work by taking your car, keys, or other mode of transportation.
- Getting you fired by harassing you, your employer, or your co-workers.
- Hiding or stealing your student financial aid check or other financial support.
- Using your social security number to obtain loans without your permission.
- Using your child’s social security number to claim an income tax refund without your permission.
- Maxing out your credit cards without permission.
- Refusing to provide you with money, food, rent, medicine, or clothing.
- Using funds from your children’s tuition or a joint savings account without your knowledge.
- Spending money on themselves while preventing you from doing the same.
- Giving you presents or paying for things with the expectation of something in return.
- Using financial circumstances to control you.
is the use of technologies like texting and social media to bully, harass, stalk, or intimidate a partner. This behavior is often a form of verbal or emotional abuse, conducted online.
- Telling you who you can or can’t follow or be friends with on social media.
- Sending you negative, insulting, or threatening messages or emails.
- Using social media to track your activities.
- Insulting or humiliating you in their posts online, including posting unflattering photos or videos.
- Sending, requesting, or pressuring you to send unwanted explicit photos or videos, sexts, or otherwise compromising messages.
- Stealing or pressuring your to share your account passwords.
- Constantly texting you or making you feel like you can’t be separated from your phone.
- Looking through your phone or checking up on your pictures, texts, and phone records.
- Using any kind of technology (such as spyware or GPS in a car or phone to monitor your activities.)
occurs when someone watches, follows, or harasses you repeatedly, making you feel afraid or unsafe.
- Showing up at your home or workplace unannounced or uninvited.
- Sending you unwanted texts, messages, letters, emails, or voicemails.
- Leaving you unwanted items, gifts, or flowers.
- Calling you and hanging up repeatedly or making unwanted phone calls to you, your employer, a professor, or a loved one.
- Using social media or technology to track your activities.
- Spreading rumors about you online or in person.
- Manipulating other people to investigate your life, including using someone else’s social media account to look at your profile or befriending your friends in order to get information about you.
- Waiting around at places you spend time.
- Damaging your home, car, or other property.
- Hiring a private investigator to follow or find you as a way of knowing your location or movements.
--- Avoid victim blaming Why is it dangerous? Victim-blaming attitudes marginalize the victim/survivor and make it harder to come forward and report the abuse. If the victim/survivor knows that you or society blames survivors for abuse, they will not feel safe or comfortable coming forward and talking to you. Victim-blaming attitudes also reinforce the manipulative tactics that abusers use to control their partner; abusers tell survivors that it is their fault this is happening. Committing violence is always the choice of the person who is abusing. It is NOT the victim/survivor’s fault or responsibility to fix the violence that an abuser is committing against them. By engaging in victim-blaming attitudes, society allows abusive people to perpetrate relationship abuse or sexual assault while avoiding accountability for those actions. Victim-blaming attitudes prevent society from acknowledging and changing toxic masculinity and rape culture. Where does it come from? In order to stop victim-blaming, it is helpful to understand why it occurs in the first place. One reason that people blame a victim/survivor is to distance themselves from an unpleasant occurrence. This gives a false sense that this could not happen to them. By labeling or accusing the victim/survivor, others can see the victim/survivor as different from themselves. People use the Just World theory, Invulnerability theory, and Assumptive World theory in an attempt to feel like they have control over situations where they do not have control. People reassure themselves by thinking, “Because I am not like the victim/survivor, because I do not do XYZ, this would never happen to me.” We need to help people understand that a survivor’s actions do not contribute to a perpetrator’s (those that choose to harm decision to commit relationship abuse and sexual violence. It is our responsibility as members of society to support survivors and hold abusers accountable.
) What does victim blaming look like? Common Victim Blaming Statements:
Example of Victim-Blaming Attitude:
- “The victim provoked him”
- “They both have problems”
- “The victim shouldn’t have married him after”
- “The victim was drunk”
- “They can’t be abused, because they are in an LGBTQI+ relationship”
Reality: This statement assumes that the victim is equally to blame for the abuse, when in reality, abuse is a conscious choice made by the abuser. Abusers have a choice in how they react to their partner’s actions. Options besides abuse include: walking away, talking in the moment, respectfully explaining why an action is frustrating, breaking up, etc. Additionally, abuse is not about individual actions that incite the abuser to hurt the victim/survivor, but rather about the abuser’s feelings of entitlement to do whatever the abuser wants to their partner. When friends and family remain neutral about the abuse and say that both people need to change, they are taking away responsibility from the perpetrator (those that choose to harm
- “She must have provoked him into being abusive. They both need to change.”
, thereby colluding with/supporting the abusive partner and making it less likely that the survivor will seek support.
) Victim Blaming in Language:One of the biggest sources of victim blaming is the way we talk about it. Language surrounding abuse and sexual assault immediately puts our attention on the victim instead of the perpetrator. This is a demonstration developed by Julia Penelope and frequently used by Jackson Katz to show how language can be victim blaming:
As you can see, the focus has shifted entirely to Mary instead of John, encouraging the audience to focus on the survivor’s actions instead of the perpetrator’s actions. The solutions regarding prevention become focused on what Mary can do differently, not on what John can do differently, and not on how society creates a culture that supports John’s behavior. What can I do about it?
- John beat Mary; This sentence is written in active voice. It is clear who is committing the violence.
- Mary was beaten by John; The sentence has been changed to passive voice, so Mary comes first.
- Mary was beaten; Notice that John is removed from the sentence completely. Our attention is completely focused on Mary.
- Mary is a battered woman; Being a battered woman is now part of Mary’s identity. John is not a part of the statement, and he will not be held accountable for his choice to abuse.
Remember if you are aware of abusive behavior and do not speak out against it, your silence communicates implicitly that you see nothing unacceptable taking place.\
- Challenge victim-blaming statements when you hear them
- Do not agree with abusers’ excuses for why they abuse
- Let survivors know that it is not their fault
- Hold abusers accountable for their actions: do not let them make excuses like blaming the victim, alcohol, or drugs for their behavior
- Acknowledge that survivors are their own best experts and provide them with resources and support
- Recognize that victim-blaming can take on many forms and manifest in unique ways, which can be rooted in racist, sexist, and/or homophobic attitudes present in society.
- Avoid victim blaming in the media
- Reframe the question “Why does the victim stay?” to “Why does the perpetrator (those that choose to harm abuse?” See Barriers to Leaving an Abusive Relationship
- Understand the frequently asked questions that often interrupt accountability.
- See Tips for Media Professionals for information on how you can re-frame victim-blaming language.
--- Additional resources for those experiencing abuse in relationships
/ Call 1-866-331-9474 / Text LOVEIS to 22522 https://www.thehotline.org/
/ Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) / Text START to 88788 https://stoprelationshipabuse.org/
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2023.06.04 19:24 lady_raptor83 My 90day report on the infrared led masks
I do apologize ahead of time- I tried to post before and after pics but my phone is acting up. I few months ago I purchased the current body led face and chest masks and had promised I'd do an update. Honestly- I don't think it's worth the money. I wasn't expecting miracles- but with an the hype it was receiving I was expecting at least some sort of change. How I used it- I would clean and dry my face in the evening and would wear it for 10 min 5 days a week. I will say- after about a month of use I had to stop using it because I ended up hospitalized (not because of the mask- haha) but that threw me off for a bit. I restarted after about 6 weeks of non use and then started again. Both my husband and I have looked at my before and afters and we don't see a difference. My skin quality looks the same. If it is building collagen its working very slowly. All I can think that people who are getting results must be using much stringer infrared devices (I'm assuming at actual derm offices) I found it annoying- not relaxing- mostly because of the amount if time you have to take (I'd be laying there thinking of all the stuff I had to do or could be doing) Maybe if I had done the 90 days of consistent use I'd have seen the difference. Maybe if I stick with it- I'd see the difference. But honestly the amount I spent vs the results were very lack luster to convince me to continue on. Once I figure out how to upload the before and afters I will- but honestly it's underwhelming.
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2023.06.04 19:23 Warm_Novel2522 After listening to a considerable number of Black Thought's songs, I would say lyricists like Nas are very easy to understand.
At times, I don't fully get the point Black Thought tries to make despite being able to hear most of his words (he doesn't rap fast, so this is easy to a large degree). Maybe, his metaphors are too complex for me. I've listened to The Dark (Trinity) several times, yet his verse remains obscure to me.
Another such artist is Lupe Fiasco. I love "Body of Work" and have been listening to it for two years, but I still don't understand the metaphors or lyrics.
Nas's lyrics are in no way simple, but the funny thing is I understand most of his lyrics.
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2023.06.04 19:22 Sea_Acadia_5926 Empties of the year so far
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- Redken Extreme Bleach recovery leave-in cream. my hair looooved this thing! ma hair has never been bleached, but it’s wavy and super dry so it was still perfect when applied on damp hair
- Vichy Dercos shampoo: I don’t have dandruff but my hair can get greasy super quickly and with this shampoo i can go without washing my hair for +1 day. Repurchased already.
- L’Oreal Elseve Hyaluron Plump Wonder Water: It was ok, still I prefer the Dream Long one.
- L’Oreal Elseve Dream Long heat protector: I looove this product, I am working on panning another heat protector rn, but i’m definitely gonna go back to this one.
- Garnier Fructis dry shampoo with yuzu and lemon: love love love! the only dry shampoo that actually works on my hair
- Sol de Janeiro 62 body mist: I love this scent, perfect for spring/summer: I have already repurchased the big format.
- Valentino Voce Viva: This is my signature scent, I already have 2 backups at home😆
- Balea After sun shampoo: bought it on sale for like 1€, never used it on my hair but it was perfect to wash my makeup brushes with
- MAC studio fix fluid: I haaate how this foundation smells, but the formula, the color-match and the longevity is just perfect, so I’ve repurchased, but only gonna use it for special occasions.
- Essence What the fake! lipgloss: this might be the first lipgloss I used up😆 I loved it, but have so many more to pan so I haven’t repurchased it (yet)
- Maybelline Brow Ultra Slim brow pencil in Blonde: this is a lighter shade than what I normally go for but surprisingly I loved the shade and formula as well.
- L’Oréal Telescopic mascara: My go-to mascara, it just makes my lashes look bomb.
- L’Oréal Infallible 24H fresh wear foundation: no explanation needed lol. I just love this foundation.
- L’Oréal True Match foundation: I wanted to switch up things a little, so I tried this foundation and I actually loved the formula but went back to Infallible.
- Maybelline dream Urban Cover foundation: the formula was good, but the shade was too dark for me, all in all I’m glad it’s over
- Benefit Hoola bronzer: my fav powder bronzer since foreverrrr
- L’Oréal Micellar Water: I wasn’t a huge fan, glad it’s gone
- Mac Fix+: Repurchased, makes my makeup look flawless and gives a refreshing feeling
- Garnier biphase micellar water: My forever favorite micellar water, it takes off stubborn makeup and I just looove it!!
- L’Oréal Revitalift Filler Hyaluronic Acid serum: I liked this one, but it’s not for you if you don’t like scented skincare products. (the smell is nice though)
- L’Oréal Midnight serum: I loooove this serum!! Evens skin and is super hydrating
- Garnier Vitamin C serum: this freshens up my skin in the morning and doesn’t flake when I apply sunscreen on top of it
- Clear Skin pimple patches: They were good, but I’m going to try other brands in the future
- Vichy Liftactiv Collagen Specialist face creams: again, no explanation needed lol. Both me and my mom love this product and have multiple backups at home
2023.06.04 19:22 Orange_Puppy Overwhelmed by treatment options! Need suggestions for discoloration. 31f
I have pretty nice skin and I love my routine but my skin on my face is slightly darker than the rest of my body. I know this is a normal concern but i have worn sunscreen religiously for 6-7 years (wish I would have started sooner) and I'm ready to commit to professional treatment.
I've searched all over TikTok and I'm overwhelmed by the options. I'd love to hear what works for you, I am really open to anything (laser, chemical peel, morpheus) I just want to invest my money where I'll really see results! Money isn't a huge concern!
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2023.06.04 19:22 McDuckVC Achieving Balance: Lessons from the Mahabharata for Modern Life
"Namaste and welcome to our channel! In today's video, we embark on a transformative journey to explore the profound teachings of the Mahabharata that guide us in achieving balance in our lives. Get ready to discover the wisdom that can help us harmonize different aspects of our existence and create a life of equilibrium and fulfillment.
Topic: Achieving Balance: Lessons from the Mahabharata for Modern Life
Lesson 1: Balancing Work and Personal Life. Explore the timeless wisdom of the Mahabharata to find harmony between our professional pursuits and personal well-being. Discover strategies to manage time, set boundaries, and prioritize self-care while pursuing our goals and ambitions.
Lesson 2: Balancing Mind, Body, and Spirit. Discover the importance of nurturing all dimensions of our being. The Mahabharata teaches us to care for our physical health, cultivate mental well-being through mindfulness and meditation, and nourish our spiritual connection for a balanced and fulfilling life.
Lesson 3: Balancing Material and Spiritual Pursuits. Uncover the wisdom of finding the right balance between material and spiritual aspects of life. Learn how to pursue material success while remaining grounded in spiritual values, fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
Lesson 4: Balancing Giving and Receiving. Explore the transformative power of selfless service and the importance of receiving support and love from others. The Mahabharata reminds us of the beauty of a reciprocal flow of giving and receiving in creating harmonious relationships and communities.
Lesson 5: Balancing Tradition and Innovation. Discover how to honor traditions while embracing innovation and progress. The Mahabharata teaches us to respect our cultural heritage while adapting to the changing times, fostering growth and evolution.
Remember, achieving balance is an ongoing journey, and the wisdom of the Mahabharata can guide us in creating a life of equilibrium and fulfillment.
Thank you for joining us on this exploration of achieving balance through the lessons of the Mahabharata. Stay tuned for more insights and practical tips on our channel. May you find harmony and fulfillment in every aspect of your life. Namaste!"
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2023.06.04 19:22 activeNeuron Scenic, low population town/village where I can go chill out for a very long vacation?
I have been saving up some money for the past 5 years and now I guess it's time to realise my long time dream - to basically zone out in a nice, quiet place for some 4-8 months (depending on how my time goes). The last couple of years were long and stressful, I was busy with studies/work and just want some time off. I would like help finding the perfect getaway. The place should ideally:
- Have access to decent stuff obviously, that's the main reason I posted my question on this sub. Although I wouldn't mind travelling up to an hour for it. Preferably not more expensive than any major city.
- Lower the population density the better (with the place still hitting these other expectations)
- Budget friendly rent/lease options. Any type of shelter goes eg. small house, airbnb, permenent campsite within network coverage area. I would like to avoid hotels and temporary campsites, unless sporadically. Also not looking for hostels for the first few months atleast.
- Good food. Any food. Traditional, fast food, stalls, resturants, delivery etc. anything goes. Just need good food at reasonable prices. Local fruits/veggies a bonus!
- Scenic, good spots. I love places near bodies of water. Places without much cop presence or atleast places with fewer bad ones . (I think I can trust myself not to become an obvious target or get into particularly shady stuff)
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2023.06.04 19:20 misslofn [F4A] Shameless Flirt [barista x tattoo artist] [flirty narrator] [trying to fluster you] [tattoo machine] [getting a tattoo] [SFX] [praise] [compliments] [15:55]
For weeks, you have been flirting with tattoo shop owner that works down the street. Sure, you're a barista and you flirt with everyone for extra tips, but she's special. You mean it with her. A few backs she offers to give you a new tattoo at a discount because she wants to get to know you better. That thought has been ruminating in your brain. Now here you are, a rainy Friday evening, standing outside her shop. Are you really going to do this? Includes: Coffee Shop/Tattoo Shop, barista listener, masochist listener, shameless flirting, trying to fluster the listener, praise and compliments, needles (tattoo machine), taking a chance, and SFX ~ Inclusivity Stuff ~ Pet Names:
Little Barista, lewd little freak (affectionate) Listener Body Parts Mentioned:
thigh and legs Misc.:
Work clothes, ink hidden from me Take a listen on: Soundgasm
, My Site
, or Youtube
If you enjoyed this might I recommend "Rescued by an Alien Bounty Hunter
" or "And they were Roommates
". But if you would rather check out my content at your own pace, that's cool! I have a neatly tagged subreddit right here
or you can explore my site linked above. Finally if you want to support me and the content I create, I have a patreon here!
New link for the new youtube version. Hope you are having an amazing weekend and taking care of yourself! xX Lofn
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2023.06.04 19:20 Kylechs I've [23M] had Sexual Dysfunction and Emotional Numbness for the last 3 years and this is what all of my tests revealed so far. What could be the issue?
Age: 23. Sex: Male. Height: 5"8. Weight:125 pounds. Duration of Complaint: 3 years. Medication: Auvelity and Geodon.
For the past 3 years I've been dealing with Emotional Numbness and Sexual Dysfunction that all began after an intense and chronic episode of stress, depression, and anxiety. My body and brain was constantly in fight or flight mode and then one day all of a sudden everything just seemed to shut down and things haven't been the same since.
Regarding the Sexual Dysfunction, I have Erectile Dysfunction. My erection quality has significantly diminished. I no longer wake up in the morning with an erection, I can't get an erection or maintain one, and I don't get random erections anymore.
My sex drive is also gone. I used to have a very high sex drive. I no longer feel sexual attraction, desire, thoughts, etc. I no longer have an urge to have sex or even masturbate.
I've also noticed that I have reduced sensation to my penis. When I try to stimulate it, it just feels dead.
With the Emotional Numbness, my emotions are severely blunted. I can't feel arousal, I can't feel adrenaline, I can't laugh like I used to, I can't feel euphoria, etc. I also can no longer feel stress hormones. I can no longer feel the sensation of my heart beating out of my chest when I am in adrenaline inducing sensations.
The Emotional Blunting and the Sexual Dysfunction have been the most bothersome symptoms, but other symptoms I have noticed in addition to this are: I don't have an appetite, I have muscle tension, and I also have brain fog/head pressure.
I believe that episode of intense stress, anxiety, and depression caused inflammation to my brain and body that has been difficult to reverse.
I've had my Hormones checked via blood. My Cortisol in the morning was pretty elevated. I had an ACTH Stimulation Test done, but it actually revealed my Cortisol was a bit lower than it should be. My Endocrinologist had me take Hydrocortisone for 8 weeks, but I felt no difference.
I also had an MRI of my Brain and Pituitary Gland and both were normal.
I am currently seeing a Functional Medicine Doctor and he ordered further testing including a Cortisol Saliva Test and a 24 Hour Dried Urine Test.
These were the abnormalities noted from my blood tests:
1) My Vitamin D was insufficient. The value was 28.3: Reference Range: 31.0 -80.0 ng/mL.
2) My White Blood Cell Count was low. The value was 3.52. Reference Range: 4.00 - 11.00 K/uL
3) My Vitamin A was high. The value was 62.5. Reference Range: 18.9 - 57.3 ug/dL
4) My Estradiol was high. The value was 49 pg/mL. Reference Range: < OR = 39 pg/mL
4) I had an Essential Fatty Acid Deficiency.
5) I had an Increased Insulin Level.
6) My Vitamin B6 was on the lower side.
7) My Testosterone levels were normal. They were listed at 872 ng/dL. Reference Range: 250-1100 ng/dL.
8) My Free Testosterone was a little high. It was listed at 160.2 pg/mL. Reference Range: 35.0 - 155.0 pg/mL.
9) My Dihydrotestosterone (DHT) was high. It was listed at 98 ng/dL. Reference Range: 12-65 ng/dL.
10 Cortisol, A.M. was slightly elevated via blood. It was listed at 22.3 mcg/dL. Reference Range 8 A.M. (7-9 A.M.) Specimen: 4.0-22.0.
I also had a 24 Hour Dried Urine Test and Saliva Test that revealed the following:
1) b-Pregnanediol was below range. The value was 32.0 ng/mg. Normal Range: 75-400.
2) a- Pregnanediol was on the low end of range. The value was 31.4 ng/mg. Normal Range: 20-130.
3) Estradiol (E2) was above the range. The value was 2.2 ng/mg. Normal Range: 0.50-2.2.
4) Estriol (E3) was above the range. The value was 10.6 ng/mg. Normal Range: 2-8.
5) 4-OH-E1 was above the range. The value was 0.8 ng/mg. Normal Range: 0-0.8.
6) Total Estrogen was above the range. The value was 34.8 ng/mg. Normal Range: 10-34.
7) 2-Methoxy-E1 was on the high end of range. The value was 2.34 ng/mg. Normal Range: 0-2.8.
8) Androsterone was above the range. The value was 3157.0 ng/mg. Normal Range: 500-3000.
9) 5b-Androstanediol was on the high end of range. The value was 244.6 ng/mg. Normal Range: 40-250.
10) Saliva Cortisol - Waking (W) Was above the range. The value was 6.3 ng/mL. Normal Range: 1.6 - 4.6.
11) Saliva Cortisol - W+30 min was on the low end of range. The value was 3.96 ng/mL. Normal Range: 3.7 - 8.2.
12) Saliva Cortisol - W+60 min was below the range. The value was 2.2 ng/mL. Normal Range: 2.3 - 5.3.
13) Saliva Cortisol - Afternoon was on the low end of range. The value was 0.48 ng/mL. Normal Range: 0.4 - 1.5.
14) Saliva Cortisol - Night was within range. The value was 0.33 ng/mL. Normal Range: 0 - 0.9.
15) Saliva Cortisone - Waking (W) was above range. The value was 23.13 ng/mL. Normal Range: 6.8 - 14.5.
16) Saliva Cortisone - W+30 min was above range. The value was 19.74 ng/mL. Normal Range: 12.4 -19.4.
17) Saliva Cortisone - W + 60 min was above range. The value was 15.59 ng/mL. Normal Range: 9.4 - 15.3.
18) Saliva Cortisone - Night was on the high end. The value was 3.93 ng/mL. Normal Range: 0-0.48.
19) Saliva Cortisone Total - Above range. The value was 65.96 ng/mL. Normal Range: 36 - 55.
20) a-Tetrahydrocortisol (a-THF) - Above range. The value was 877.0 ng/mg. Normal Range: 175 - 700.
21) Pyroglutamate was on the low end of range. The value was 45.8 ug/mg. Normal Range: 38 - 83.
22) Homovanillate (HVA) was on the low end of range. The value was 5.7 ug/mg. Normal Range: 4 - 16.
His Nurse Practitioner ordered other blood tests for further investigation and accuracy including:
• CBC and differential • Vitamin A and Metabolite • Hemoglobin A1c • Estradiol • Cortisol • Free Testosterone Evaluation • Pregnenolone • DHEAS • Dihydrotestosterone • Basic Metabolic Profile • Lipid Profile
The Nurse Practitioner gave me three supplement recommendations:
1) OmegaGenics® EPA-DHA 1000 (60 Softgels) (Metagenics): Please take 1 gel, once / day.
2) Vitamin D3 2500iu (100 Softgels) (Jarrow Formulas): Please take 1 gel, once / day.
3) B6/B1 Plus Zinc (90 capsules) (Biotics Research): Please take 1 capsule, once / day.
I am also currently seeing a Psychiatrist. I've tried Wellbutrin starting at 150MG, then 300MG, and then 400MG to no avail. I then tried Rexulti along with the Wellbutrin and it didn't help. I then tried Trintellix and that didn't help. He put me on Auvelity for 8 weeks and I felt no difference. He is currently having me take a low dose of Geodon along with the Auvelity for the last 4 weeks. So far not much of a difference.
This is where I stand right now. I am still investigating and working with my Psychiatrist as well as my Functional Medicine Practitioner.
I just wanted to know what do you guys think about my test results as it correlates with my symptoms?
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2023.06.04 19:16 thebrushup Gabe Kanae, Turning "Internal Homophobia" and Other Challenges into a Book
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As part of LGBT Pride Month, here's a short profile about u/GabeKanae
who has struggled with "internal homophobia," and turned his battles into a book of thoughts and poems. https://preview.redd.it/7imv58w7b14b1.jpg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1a5f5a1fcdeaf8c0114280ff561ba7d926f21afe
“It's hard for me to feel how I did years ago. Before I learned how cruel this world is. How easy it is to ridicule and hate, never seeing what it takes from another, who is already bait," is an excerpt from the book, Three Letter Lovers by Kanae.
One reviewer wrote: "The poetry is raw emotions expressing heartbreak and experiences. Thank you for sharing you vulnerability with us."
Kanae, a 19-year-old student at the University of Nevada, Reno, has been through quite a few hardships in his life, trying to make a past toxic relationship work with an avoidant partner.
Kanae struggled with his mental health for some time, which affected his self confidence, and kept him locked in his room due to his OCD that very much controlled his life.
He started going to therapy once a week for an hour when he was 16, which allowed him to learn how to be comfortable with himself, and in his own body.
“I realized a lot of the things that I was doing were knocking me down, giving me anxiety because I was trying to impress other people,” Kanae said. “Which is something I can’t really do. I can't convince other people to like me because everyone is different.”
After coming to terms with the trauma that he has endured he wrote his own book, Three Letter Lovers, a series of rant poems for readers to enjoy, available for sale on Amazon.
He has also learned to express himself in many different forms of media, like podcasts, photography, videography, and journalism as well.
“Media is one of the most important things in our society and it is such an expressive form of creativity I love to take part of,” Kanae says.
Story and photo by Kesley Morris
Link to Kanae's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Three-Letter-Lovers-Gabriel-Kanae/dp/B0BGMMMTX4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=VMWMPLJBJN3K&keywords=three+letter+lovers&qid=1685898764&sprefix=three+letter+lovers%2Caps%2C186&sr=8-1
2023.06.04 19:15 TedAndAnnetteFleming Losi LMT, Arrma Typhon BLX, Balance Charger, SCX24 Hop-Ups
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All items are in good working condition but the trucks show signs of use - see photos. I just don’t have a good space to run the big fast cars and realized I prefer trailing over bashing. Prices include shipping to the continental US. Payment accepted through PayPal, offers/trades considered. Please post before messaging. submitted by TedAndAnnetteFleming to RCClassifieds [link] [comments]
Losi LMT Grave Digger ($500) - Comes with some OEM axle housing and shock plastics spares and a new spare Spektrum OEM servo. Also includes original box contents, but no original box.
Arrma Typhon BLX V3 ($250) - Comes with original box contents, but no original box. Steering servo was just replaced. Missing one body clip, and most of the rubber attachments have broken.
Zeee Balance Charger ($25) - Opened but never used.
SCX24 hop ups from Hobbypark ($20) - Aluminum high clearance links, center skid plate, steering link and servo mount. Links are sized for Deadbolt. Opened but never ran.
Thanks for looking!
2023.06.04 19:14 MM_7 Apartment hunting questions for 2 bed 2 bath rent: $3600
My friend and I are looking for 2 bed 2 bath apartment for around $3600-$3700 starting middle of August. But we have been really struggling to find any places that start at that time. So a couple questions:
- Is it too early to start?
- Have been using zillow, domu, and zumper; are there any other websites you recommend/should we use a realtor?
- If the realtor is a better choice does anyone have recs on good ones?
The areas we would like to live in are: Gold Coast, old town, river north, lincoln park and lakeview (if close to a red line for ease of commute to work)
Thanks for the help!
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2023.06.04 19:12 hellomynameissarita Is it ok to ask here about my husbands symptoms?
Hi I was hoping I could explain some of the issues my husband has been experiencing and see here if anyone could relate or if I’m way off suspecting bipolar 2 for him.
For some background: I’ve known my (f27) husband (m27) since we were 14. We’ve grown up friends and sort of in and out of each others lives until we got together back in 2015. Our relationship has always been pretty all over the place. Starting with wild obsessional love. And having issues with frequent fighting and occasional breakups. Early on we were long distance and my husband would have these moments of extreme distrust that I’m noticing is a pattern for him throughout our relationship. He also has been suspecting he has adhd recently. I’m autistic and so is our 4 year old son.
My husband is a high masking person with extreme ambition and finds it hard to be vulnerable. I think I’ll just list what I see as his symptoms now:
-hypersomnia and insomnia happening regularly but kind of randomly. Sleeping for hours during the day but never seeming rested. Or staying up really late barely getting any sleep but still having tons of energy.
-extreme jealousy seems to be his biggest trigger for bizarre and controlling behavior. Anything that threatens my connection with him can set him off. He appears paranoid and distrustful of me, extremely aggressive and insecure. He looses all empathy and begins accusing me of things I didn’t do. He often requires a lot of my time and attention to calm down. Sometimes he has even gone through my phone and iPad out of distrustful feelings and believes all I do is talk badly about him behind his back.
-has reported feeling suicidal lately and has frequent bouts of depression.
-will sometimes non stop work extremely hard for his job with massive hyperfocus, not sleeping, and crashes hard afterwards.
-hyper sexual randomly sometimes that I find inappropriate or just can’t keep up with. This issue was a lot worse in the past.
-is suddenly working out now and pushing his body to extremes and seems to enjoy the physical pain his body is in.
Edited to add: we do experience weeks where things appear totally fine and we have stability. We can kind of forget about any of the bad stuff until a stressful trigger like work comes and brings out these behaviors again.
I don’t see too often my husband experiencing too much obvious joy, the only thing I notice sometimes is he’ll come home from work much happier than other days with big ideas for the future that sometimes appear out of touch with what’s reasonable for us. Like planning big trips we can’t afford for instance but never acting recklessly in that regard by actually buying tickets.
He will engage in excessive spending occasionally and frequently has a huge need for novelty and stimulation. He gets aggravated if he can’t get it sometimes.
Thank you if you read this far. Any feedback is helpful if you relate at all to any of this. I’m in the process of getting him an appointment with a psychiatrist because it’s gotten to the point where I know he needs professional help.
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