Im so confused. "background"
We met 2 years ago. Everything was amazing. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and always worried about being able to find the perfect man.
I ended up dating an amazing man (at the time).
As time went on he would act strange and when he met my friends he said they were not good for me. (i know red flags, but my friends are crazy but they are good to me and i am just the quiet one in the group).
We were "doing" stuff in bed one night and he bite my lip and wouldn't let it go. He said that I was a whore and loved attention.
I left him after this. Then after work I got home, outside my front door was flowers, a massive new mirror, a card, and new furniture. I rang him to say thank you. He apologised and said he has issues with gambling.
I told him i would help i was happy he told me.
Time went on we went on holidays he spolied us rotten with gifts, disney, italy, trips everywhere. And then every few months he would blip, call me horrible names, say horrible things about my body (to the point where i can not even look at myself in the mirror anymore).
"Anyways"
Every few month blips, turned into every fortnight, every weekend and recently every other day.
I left him ages ago. But I still see him sometimes as my daughter loves him, his family our like my family. It really was a dream relationship, i sometimes regretted ending it, but i didn't like what it was doing to my energy levels and mental health. Everything had to be about him. If i went out with a friend he would get drunk in my house and ask me if i was woth another man. (literally in work uniform after work beers and food with 2 female friends) i stopped going out. He had fake social media accounts under different names to talk to women, was on sex meetup sites. He was going to gambling meetings and getting close woth females there. I had enough and left.
FAST FORWARD.
Past few weeks i have been feeling absolutely amazing. I have felt free, doing fun things, enjoying life, beach trips, out with friends. I was ignoring his texts.
** I was OVER him completely**
He rang me saying he needed help badly. He's in debt and needs me to help him get well. He was crying. I said okay, you can stay with me for 4 weeks, until pay day.
The first 3 days were fun and as the weekend approached he asked if we could try to be a family again. I said no. I don't love you, i am here to help you, that's it.
He kept asking, and asking and asking. He admitted that hundreds of women have been propositioned him (from work and his home town) and he has wasted his time on me. I told him i was happy for him and he should move on. He agreed.
We planned to go swimming this weekend. He came to pick me up. (i noticed 100€ was missing).
He said he dropped it.
I counted money and he asked me again about being a family. I said no stop asking. He said no point in living ill just go gamble.
We got into a huge argument. He was trying to get bank card to gamble and i ended up flushing it down the toilet. (im not an anrgy person but i have been lisntening to gambling stuff non stop for 2 years and reacted). I told him he needed help, i couldn't do it alone.
I had money in my hand sitting down. He stood staring at me. He walked over and put his arms out wide and i thought he was giving me a hug(hes 6.6ft 18 stone, big big guy). He slapped both sides of my face and squeezed really hard saying"your mine i want you, I want you, i need you" over and over again. (left a small bruise)
I locked myself outside. He left. My daughter was in neighbours house at pool party. I rang my mum. My mum rang the police. And the police are now wanting to put my child on a protection list with social services. (ie. Her dad will get custody (whole other dilemma she hates going to his house, he won't let her be a kid ie.messy time, he doesn't play with her).
I know he won't come near me again, just want to be at peace and enjoy like last week.
I can't sleep now, my mental health is very very low because I am afraid I am going to loose my daughter. I lay awake all night looking at her.
My whole life is all about her. I am an amazing mother, my daughter is confident, intelligent, emotionally intune, empathic and so loving.
She's top in her class for reading and maths. I take her swimming everyweek, to the beach, holidays, horse riding, fishing. Everything i have goes to my daughter.
And now because my mum reported my ex for domestic violence, I am going to loose my daughter.
I just feel like giving up.

Bro I shit 1 time in public and it was in school, 1 single time and I will never shit in public again. So I ate a ton of spicy food the day before and so when I was like halfway through the school day I had to shit really badly and I just couldn’t hold it anymore. So I went to the bathroom the is least used and in the corner far away from all the classes. Bro I sat down and like 2 minutes later like 4 people walk in. I immediately stop and they walk in laughing and shit and then they stop laughing. I heard someone give a big sniff and say “damn y’all smell that?” My heart fucking sunk. Then some other kid said “yeah bro someone taking a shit” “yo who taking a shit in here”. I didn’t say a word I just wanted to die. Then I heard “yo look at his shoes”. Then they started banking on the door and asking me to let them in for like 2 minutes while they were laughing then they left. -10/10 don’t recommend ever
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Mag am I the asshole ta bi kai mas ma gets pa ninyu ang culture nato. Taas2x ni e explain so bear with me lang.
Going to be graduating by the end of the month and my closest and supportive best friend booked a ticket in advance to come see me graduate college. I was really looking forward to seeing her since most of my barkada resides in Davao and I haven't seen them in forever. She as well asked to stay over my place to save cost sa accomodation which I really didn't mind at all and of consulted my BF who I live with and he was fine with it too, he was only concerned for her due our 30kg dog thats about her height that lives inside our home.
Since I'm migrating soon pud, she somewhat convinced the whole group (3 people) to come to Cebu to see my graduate and hang out with me before I leave the country indefinitely. She was supposed to surprise me with them in the airport when I was only expecting her, yet caught her using "plurals" (Kami, namo, etc.) When talking about the upcoming trip and she admitted na she extended the 3 day stay to a full week with our closest friends. I was really excited and grateful for the thought of it yet was concerned about the costs sa ilang stay. I recently quit my job and bf cannot work, we are living on his emergency funds till we are able to get a clear on the papers abroad so we are trying to be frugal in a way where we are still able to live comfortably. Of course I had to run this pass my bf and he was happy to extend the invite to my friends and was just worried bout how we were going to fit them in our 1 spare bedroom (yes he is awesome lol)
By yesterday grabi ko anxiety while talking to her, this was a HUGE NEWS FOR ME. Wala jud sa ako plan to gasto for laag yet it made sense nlng pud kai it is a milestone for me too and may not see them again. I was anxious further talking bout the trip kai it seems like na pugos niya amo other friend na walai funds og ga duha2x og ari, and she specifically instructed me to not mention anything about the costs sa among tentative itinerary (laag) to my other friend kai for sure mu back out daw kuno. I really appreciate the gesture and I'm down to spend time with them yet I do not want to cover any extra expenses that may arise in case they fall short. I told her this and she took it the wrong way, She said "We’re going there not expecting for u to spend money on us", "We're working we can spend for ourselves", "We can afford this trip" mura siyag na lain like I'm belittling her ability to pay. I've been bag packing for 2 years and I know how tiny expenses like entrance fees can accumulate greatly especially in a span of a week, I was really deeply concerned kai she drop the figure of 10k to cover them 3 for 5 days of in Cebu so I just wanted to make sure she understands na mahal ang Cebu labaw na if gnahan sila mu laag2x, 10k is not enough for 3 pax in 5 days. So I made her an planed itinerary sa few places she mentioned and inserted things that we cannot miss too and its costing via spreadsheet down to details sa transport and expenses sa laag (wala pa labot ang food) para lang naa siya idea pila jud dapat nila e set aside (monetarily prepare) for the trip, this way it will give them a full month to save and re-evaluate kung mu dayun sila og tour2x or omit some to cut costs and be on an agreement to what is attainable.
Today, she surprisingly adds na naa daw lain guy na mu kuyog sa trip which she describes as "Uyab sa mama sa uyab ni (friend #2) hahaha nag laag lang ug Philippines na kedad ra nato" I was really shocked and reactive to this. I told her this was not cool and I was not comfortable with this. She added "He’ll pay for himself and actually help pay for ours too" and will be booking his own accommodation so I don't need to worry daw. Yet I am very worried, I don't know this guy and why do you need someone else to pay for your trip? So I think iyang perspective is if Kung daghan mi mas barato which is really not the case. Especially since I proposed to rent out a 5 seater car (she wanted to go to busay mountain tour) and upgrading that to a 7 seater will costs more to chip in. I really had a violent reaction to this and we argued over chat she ended up with:
"We’re going there only to see you and additional na na if we could spend time and enjoy going to places with u while ur here and one person is happy to cover the most cost for all of us in the trip, which will help them (friend 2 and friend 3) and of course will help u too kay problematic na kaayo ka sa spending If dili sad ka gusto we can still plan things out since we paman sad mi dira. If di ka, edi dili ka. Ana lang. ikaw man amo adtuan so we’ll respect what u want. Adto rami for ur grad and that’s it."
Feel nko na iyang idea for a trip to Cebu is to tambay along as long as naai ma tulgan ok na and e happy go lucky ra "or make it as it goes along the way" we'll be fine. Yet I am concerned to house 3 of them without income for any upcoming additional costs na she may not see comming.
I feel bad yet frankly I don't know how to make this okay for me, na suko pud siya, wala na siya ni reply I just responded with: To put it simpler, we simply cannot afford this right now especially when we are looking to move to a country that's very expensive we are both jobless and trying to stick to a budget. If the main reason why you're inviting a +1 is to help with your side of the expenses yet it will make ours more, it would be best to reconsider your trip. This is quite a pressure on our side too and I really hope you see that I am very concerned about the additional expenses that may occur that I would need to cover in case if your budget falls short. It's nothing against you, it's just being rational and practical.
Sooo, kababayan... AITA?

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Shotgun shells come in a variety of flavors, but if you’re looking for a nice tight pattern that won’t break the bank, then make sure to get some Winchester Drylok 12ga #3 Super Steel 3" Magnum Shells for your next duck hunt.
Or if you don’t mind sitting in your duck blind a little longer and want the full list, keep reading and we’ll share our favorite waterfowl shotgun shells on the market for 2023.
For those of you who love reading about shotgun shells, click HERE to go to our Buyer’s Guide.

The Best Duck Hunting Shells

1. Winchester Drylok 12 ga Super Steel Magnum #3 1-1/4 oz
2. Hevi-Shot 12 ga HEVI XII 3" #4 1-1/8 oz
3. Federal Black Cloud TSS 3" 20 ga #3 & #9 1 oz
4. Kent Fasteel 2.0 Precision Steel 12ga 3-1/2" #4 1-3/8 oz
5. Remington Nitro Steel 12 ga 3" #4 1-3/8 oz
6. Browning Wicked Blend 12 ga 3" #2 and #4 1-1/4 oz

Winchester Drylok Super Steel Magnum #3 1-1/4 oz

Specs

• Muzzle Velocity: 1,400 fps
• Projectile: Steel
• Weight: 1-¼ oz

Pros

• Affordable
• High Velocity
• Non-toxic
• Easy to find

Cons

• Some prefer premium options

Why We Chose It

When we think of the best shotgun shells for duck hunting, naturally, we look at Winchester. Winchester has provided generations of hunters with reliable, high-quality rounds, and the Winchester Drylok Super Steel 12 gauge shells definitely pay homage to this legacy.
But the name alone doesn’t make this shotshell the best for duck hunting. Waterfowl hunters need ammo that performs well in adverse weather conditions, has a tight pattern, high velocity, and are affordable and easy to find.
As lead shot becomes more regulated, having a good steel shot round is essential to legally blindsiding mallards and wood ducks every time you pop out of the duck blind. As duck hunters are often hunting from the water or even a boat, the double-seal wad system means your powder is always dry and ready to go whenever you squeeze the trigger.
The 1,400 fps muzzle velocity and 1 ¼ ounce payload are more than enough to fell ducks up to 40 yards away with relative ease.
The Winchester Drylok is a tried-and-true design that won’t let you down in the field. Although some duck hunters prefer more exotic loads, you can’t go wrong loading your favorite duck gun with 3" magnum Winchester Drylock ammo!

Hevi-Shot 12 ga HEVI XII 3" #4 1-1/8 oz

Specs

• Muzzle Velocity: 1,500 fps
• Projectile: Tungsten Alloy shot
• Weight: 1 1/8 oz.

Pros

• Dense payload
• Tungsten shot
• High velocity
• Excellent grouping

Cons

• Availability

Why We Chose It

Ask any modern duck hunter which shotgun shells are best for honker hunting, and you’ll surely get plenty of recommendations for the HEVI-XII. This exquisitely designed shotgun shell includes tungsten shot that is denser than steel and safer than lead (which is probably illegal where you live for duck hunting anyway).
Tungsten shot is denser than bismuth, steel, and lead. Which means the HEVI-XII payload gives you a lot more bang for your buck. This means that HEVI XII shot has a density of 12 g/cc (grams per cubic centimeter) which is around 53% more dense than steel shot.
This translates to more pellets on target, deeper penetration, and more trips out into the lake for your hunting dog to retrieve all the ducks you’ve nailed.
Although HEVI-XII can sometimes be hard to find, most duck hunters will tell you that it’s worth the price of admission as this shotshell simply works every time!

Federal Black Cloud TSS 3" 20 ga #3 & #9 1 oz

Specs

• Muzzle Velocity: 1,350 fps
• Projectile: Tungsten/Steel
• Weight: 1 oz.

Pros

• High quality
• Non-toxic tungsten and steel shot
• Higher Density
• Tight pattern through most chokes

Cons

• Only available seasonally

Why We Chose It

Although we typically recommend a 12 gauge shotgun for duck hunting, Federal Premium Black Cloud TSS ammo is one low-recoil option we will make an exception for.
Combining #3 and #9 shot in one hull, the Black Cloud TSS (Tungsten Super Shot) maintain their velocity farther, penetrate deeper and hit harder than any waterfowl payload has before.
The secret to the lethality of the Black Cloud TSS lies in the Flitecontrol Flex wad, which opens from the rear instead of the front like traditional wads. The result is incredibly dense and repeatable shot patterns that have an effective range past 50 yards through all standard waterfowl chokes.
Comprised of 60% heavyweight TSS pellets and 40% Flitestopper Steel shot, the Black Cloud TSS shotshell unleashes a swarm of shot that leaves no chance of escape for any drake that finds itself in your sights.
Although Federal Black Cloud TSS is only available seasonally, it is well worth the price of admission if you are serious about duck hunting.

Kent Fasteel 2.0 Precision Steel 12ga 3-1/2" #4 1-3/8 oz

Specs

• Muzzle Velocity: 1,550 fps
• Projectile: Zinc-plated steel
• Weight: 1 3/8 oz.

Pros

• Safe in fixed choke barrels
• Non-toxic
• Tighter grouping at longer distances (depending on choke, of course)
• High-quality
• Versatile

Cons

• Availability
• Cost

Why We Chose It

If you’re serious about shotgun hunting, then you’re probably well aware that Kent makes phenomenal shells for all sorts of activities. With multiple loads for turkey, goose, upland game, and deer hunting, Kent truly has a shell for all seasons.
But if you’re looking to whack some waterfowl out of the sky quickly and efficiently, then Kent Fasteel 2.0 is what you need to load in your duck gun.
Development of the Fasteel began around the wad, which has proven time and time again that it can produce boringly repetitive shot patterns in both semi-autos and in cold temperatures. A tight pattern is essential for putting down descending mallards ethically and quickly.
Kent Fasteel 2.0 was developed with duck hunting in mind, as the shot is zinc-plated while the head is nickel-plated. This adds a level of corrosion resistance to your ammo that ensures proper feeding and function in even the worst conditions.
Although Kent ammo is sometimes hard to find and will blast a few holes in your wallet, the incredibly consistent performance keeps dedicated duck hunters coming back time and again to load their shotguns with Kent Fasteel 2.0.

Remington Nitro Steel 12 ga 3" #4 1-3/8 oz

Specs

• Muzzle Velocity: 1,300 fps
• Projectile: Steel
• Weight: 1 ⅜ oz.

Pros

• Affordable
• Lead-free
• Consistent performance

Cons

• Some premium loads perform better

Why We Chose It

If you’re looking for a low-cost, no-frills round that will bring home the duck, then you can’t go wrong with Big Green.
Remington’s Nitro Steel line of duck hunting ammo is nothing special to write home about. However, when you need a round that simply works then Nitro Steel will get the job done.
Although it lacks a lot of the special features offered by other premium loads, Remington Nitro Steel ammo is consistent and deadly in the right hands. However, we’d recommend that you take it out and test it before duck season this year, just to evaluate how it patterns in your shotgun.

Browning Wicked Blend 12 ga 3" #2 and #4 1-1/4 oz

Specs

• Muzzle Velocity: 1,450 fps
• Projectile: Steel & Bismuth
• Weight: 1 1/4oz

Pros

• Steel and Bismuth shot blend
• High velocity
• Works well with most chokes

Cons

• Availability

Why We Chose It

We’ve got to hand it to the marketing department at Browning for providing an absolutely amazing name for such an excellent duck-hunting shotgun shell.
The Wicked Blend is comprised of 70% zinc-plated steel and 30% copper-plated bismuth pellets. Combining the denser bismuth with plated steel means you’ll get a good mixture of dense payload at an affordable price.
On top of those benefits, the proprietary Wicked Wad increases pattern density for those long downrange shots. We found this load to be extremely versatile, working well for both duck and goose hunting.
Although this ammo might be a little hard to find, if you can get it you won’t be disappointed when you unload on a flock of descending waterfowl.
Best Duck Hunting Shells: Wasting Waterfowl With Ease originally appeared on Ammo.com

Hi,
My friend's family can NOT catch a god damn break. They have only 1 working car, as another one of theirs recently broke down. They're a family of 6, with 2 parents working, and 4 dependents. Parents are a waitress and a chef, incomes are low.
Their electricity got cut off today (unsure of the reason, but I'm assuming an issue w/ payments). They've moved at least 7 times, and have only rented their whole lives; rent is probably eating them alive, around ~$1,000 in payments monthly, probably more now.
They have nothing to their name except cars that keep breaking down on them, because it's all they're able to afford.
Right now they're staying with family in Nuevo Laredo, but I imagine that if something ELSE comes up: a medical emergency, another broken car, they'll be wiped out for good.
I really care about my friend and their family, and it really stresses me out even hearing about their situation.
So, I want to know if there are any financial assistance programs here in Laredo, or places that are able to offer some kind of services to them.
I only know of one, like South Regional Food Bank, but if there are any others I should be aware of, please reply below.
Extra Note: my friend is also of working age, and they've sent about 20+ applications to lots of job postings, but no luck so far. If anyone knows of any local job opportunities, please reply below as well.

Just started a new job last week. This place, y'all, omg. Tonight was only my 5th shift and the things that go on here. Okay so, I should have known something was off about the place because I got hired on the spot and got hit with that "we're like a family here" bs 🚩🚩🚩
Anyway, tonight I got my first check and I noticed it was short $30, another server's check was short $100. Well we confronted the owner and she said it's for a "credit card processing fee" like what? I've been serving on/off for 13 years now and have never not once had "credit card processing fees" deducted from my tips. So I google it and it's apparently legal, but only 3% of the tip, not 3% of the total. So I do the math. Only $2.91 should've came out of my check which I would've been fine with, but $30??? The math ain't mathin'. The other server that was short $100, she would've had to make $3,300 to rack up $100 in credit card fees. So like wtf. So now you have a whole group of servers openly discussing quitting amongst themselves, myself included. Well the owner is constantly drunk, like visibly drunk, and her and her husband fight constantly. Like hollering and cussing each other out in the middle of the restaurant which gives me and another server childhood flashbacks. Tonight, the owner cussed out a server, a really sweet teenage kid, in front of her table while she was talking to them and made her cry. All for a mistake that wasn't even her fault. The chef had handed her a filet mignon and told her it was a sirloin and told her to run it to the wrong table. Like how is that her fault. Anyway, luckily this is my 2nd job and my 1st job, that I've been at for two years, get along great with everyone, and make bank in tips at, just text me and asked me if I could pick up some extra shifts. I responded with, "yes ma'am, absolutely, I'd love to, I will be there" 😂 so yeah, gonna jump off this sinking ship while I'm still above water or whatever that saying is. Also, the kitchen was incredibly slow tonight for no reason, we weren't even that busy so it didn't make sense. Every table I had waited over an hour for their food. Luckily, they were all cool about it though. But my last table ordered desserts. So I gave them $24 worth of cheesecake and told them I wouldn't be adding it to their ticket. They asked me why and I told them "because you shouldn't have had to wait an hour for your meal," but in reality, I was just being petty with management. But yeah, I just needed to rant. That table left me a generous tip though lol.

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However, we noticed she began to shed bloodstains, at first they were small but then they were accompanied more and more by pieces of meat.
Due to this, we contacted a specialist veterinarian and he informed us she may be having complications for the birth and that one of the babies has not formed well, so she is expelling them, however, this has been happening for several days, so he determined that they need to perform an ultrasound and a cesarean section.
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Oh my. This is my first Reddit post ever! Sorry this is pretty lengthy, trying to be thorough! I got so much help from reading through this sub that I felt compelled to share. I got tickets to see LCD Soundsystem over Memorial Day. It was my first visit to Red Rocks. I was very excited but pretty nervous. I adore live music but am also a highly anxious person. Unknown situations can really overwhelm me. I need to feel prepared when I visit new places. I am a fat person and a flatlander who is out of shape so I was extremely worried about how hard it would be to navigate the venue. I did many deep dives on this sub and others and am happy to report I had the perfect visit. Just wanted to share some info for those nervous Nellies like me.
My sister and I stayed at a Holiday Inn in Lakewood. This is far from the Denver Airport but a 15 minute drive to Red Rocks. It is a suburb - there were plenty of chain restaurants, coffee shops, and a Trader Joe's. While not overly exciting or interesting, it was very convenient and met our needs. Also! I highly recommended A Taste of Denmark, an absolutely devine Danish bakery.
We rented a car via Turo and decided to park at the venue. We went at 5 pm (doors at 6 show at 7)and parked in the Upper South Lot. Parking was easy and quick, the staff were friendly and helpful. There was a line of 50-100 people waiting by the fence for when the doors opened. We scoped things out around the parking lot. People had little screen tents, bean bag boards, and camp chairs set up. Since we weren't local/flew in we didn't have camp chairs, but if we had it would've been totally fine to set up by our car and chill until the doors opened or even wander around and talk to people. A crazy swirling dust storm whipped up for a few minutes so we just chilled in the car until the doors opened.
The entrance to the amphitheater from the Upper South lot is via a walk up a ramp that is STEEP but doable. Even my sister, who is in good shape, got a little winded. There was plenty of space and time to step to the side and catch our breath. Nobody was pushy or annoyed. We waited in line on the ramp for maybe 15 minutes and then were able to move through security. There were steps up to the security screening that were fine to navigate and not too difficult. Time to walk from car (front/middle of Upper South Lot) to security check point was less than 10 minutes total (not including wait time on the ramp).
I brought a draw string backpack (like the ones they give away at business conferences 😂). I had most of my things in a bunch of smaller bags and satchels-security didn't ask to go through any of the smaller bags. They had me open the top of my bag, kind of felt around, and asked if my water bottle was sealed. Easy peasy. There was a merch table to the left immediately upon entering. They were busy when we got in @ 6 (an hour before the show) but didn't have crazy long lines.
There are really nice bathrooms to your left as you walk towards the venue from this entrance. They are all gender bathrooms with big tall wooden doors/no gaps. It's like your own personal bathroom. These are the only bathrooms I used at the venue, before and during the show. I never waited more than 5-10 minutes in line.
The seating was broken up into GA sections and Reserved Seating sections. It was all clearly marked with ropes. We were in row 29, so not front row but not at the tippy top. The stairs are challenging, but again, we had plenty of space and time to stop and catch our breath. There are some hand railings on the left side but they do not go all the way up the amphitheater. So be aware that you may have to traverse stairs without the assistance of a railing.
My sister brought a picnic blanket that folds up with a handle. We unfolded it on our seats which was great to have this set out for once the shows got going and we wanted to sit and rest. We went right to our seats upon arriving. We really just took in the venue-the views and the vibes. The people watching is great. Each of us had time to check out merch, grab a drink, etc. I was not bored at all and was glad we went as early as we did. It made for a long day but it was worth it.
We only purchased 1 alcoholic seltzer and a bottle of water which were obviously expensive. I brought in 1 bottle of water (they have to be sealed) and wished I had brought 2. Everything is cashless-cards only. We did not try any of the food, although I saw a couple people go by with some tasty looking tacos and other fair style food. It would also be totally legit to throw a granola bar or sandwich into your bag if you think you'll need food (would definitely recommend if you are drinking). We ate right before we went to the venue and hit up a fast food drive thru at the end of the night and that was fine for us.
We had a group of people next to us-it was clear some of the friends had purchased Reserved tickets and their friends had GA tickets but were just going chill with their friends @ their Reserved seats - stacking each other 2-3 people deep per seat. They were nice and respectful. And during the openers I honestly didn't care. But before LCD started I did ask who all had tickets as the group was kinda jamming us up (they were obviously getting more and more intoxicated and dancing wider and wider into our seats). The guy who had the Reserved seat TOTALLY got it. I shared that we had come from out of state, paid for the reserved seats and this show was very important to me. He and his friends immediately apologized and had everyone on their best behavior, nobody was stepping in front of us during the show. We even kinda made friends with the dude and chatted a bit. His friends said something along the lines of 'oh we've only EVER been to GA shows so this assigned seating thing is hard.' 🙄 We had several people who were too drunk/high or trying to scam folks by being lost and unable to find their seats. They apparently decided to look for their seats 15 minutes into the LCD set. At that point in the game you are just out of luck. The seat numbers are on teeny tiny plaques that are not lit up. Figure out where your seats are before the chaos starts. We had to shoo them along because they were interrupting the show and weren't super aware of their behavior or surroundings.
I've read multiple articles and subs that have said marijuana is illegal to use in public! You can totally be arrested! This is definitely not the case. Everyone, everywhere was freely using drugs. It smelled of marijuana the whole show. Just a heads up if that bothers you. It is constant and potent. You can't get away from it, even in an outdoor venue! I had no problem with this but some people might care.
The show was at the end of May. I wore mid weight long pants, a t-shirt, and medium weight sweatshirt. This was the perfect outfit. No sweating and no shivering. We had a light comfortable breeze all night. It was a dream! I had packed a light jacket and rain poncho in my pack but didn't need either. This was easily stowed underneath our seats. I wore comfy running shoes. They aren't the most stylish but there is lots of uneven ground to traverse and you spend hours standing on cement which can be hard on the body and joints. Forget the cute heels for Red Rocks.
We stayed until the very end. MANY people left before the last song, I'm guessing to beat the traffic. Exiting the venue was slightly chaotic but uneventful. It took us 10-15 minutes to get back to the car. The ramp on the way back down is steep. I chose to use the hand railing just to be safe.
And then we zipped out of the Upper South Lot and down into Morrison in not even 5 minutes. We barely had to wait. I was expecting to sit for hours to exit per all the info I've read about parking at Red Rocks. It was a great surprise and a perk of going early!
I know this is a lot. Thanks if you read it all. Hoping by sharing I can inspire others to go. I was second guessing myself and my abilities prior to going and I'm so glad I didn't cancel! It was truly a once in a life time experience. Thanks to the info I found on reddit I felt pretty prepared and comfortable!

Hey Chefs... no food talk here. Straight business.
I got connected with a restaurant that is looking to hire a new chef. Tonight, I hung out at the pass for an hour, chatted with the departing chef and then sat at the bar to eat some food.
My big takeaway is that this place has potential. They average about 50 covers on a Friday night in a big town where some places are doing 200. I think with their size they should be doing at least 85-100 on a Friday. The food is great, but it doesn't fit what the restaurant is doing. On top of that I think the FOH needs a slap and the menu needs to be, at the least, reformatted.
I don't think I can ask for what I want because I can't imagine them being able to afford me. BUT, I was thinking about approaching them with some sort of profit sharing agreement where I make a lower base than what I want but make a percent off profits. That way, if I can get this restaurant running the way I think it can be run, I can make bank.
Has anyone ever gone into an agreement similar to this? I don't think I need specific numbers since every place is different, but I would like to hear your story.
Thanks

I don’t really know what to say. This is the first time I have made a post.
I used to be a school psychologist who was a leader in my area and now I am disabled as a result of complex trauma and chronic daily migraines.
I am currently fighting two agencies, one I have an open grievance with, to give me services they have promised me for years.
I have contacted so many agencies, including disability rights and civil rights. I have the language to tell them what is happening. People just don’t believe me because so much trauma has happened.
I cannot even begin to list the things I have tried. It is endless.
Right now, I have lost every single support I knew prior to becoming disabled. People either didn’t believe me or just stopped caring about my life always being in danger, no matter what I do. I cannot access food pantries or banks because of the barriers of my disability (severe panic attacks and dissociation which make it so even when I try, the attempt often ends with me not getting what I need or with me not being safe- like sitting on the floor waiting to “come to”). My medication is constantly disrupted.
Shelters in my area are unsafe and most, if not all, are full.
I had a housing voucher, which is hard to secure, but the agency I have an open grievance with didn’t follow through on helping me find housing and it expired.
I’m scared.

I'm a college student from TN. I came here for the summer to stay in an AirBnB, and to work. To my surprise, I haven't been able to get hired to a job yet, and I've run low on money from buying groceries for the past month I've been here. Are the food pantries available to everyone or only NYC residents?
What do you have to show when at the food pantry (ID, bank statement, etc.)?

My ssi was raised to the max $914, my SNAP got dropped to $64, then SSI determined they overpaid me and dropped my SSI to $822, I still only have $64 to work with. Is there a way to get this raised? I have bills and $64 lasts me a week and a half and that's if I'm lucky and eating rice, pasta, and beans. The food banks don't give us food to prepare with, mostly snacks. Or weird things like 2 cases of squash that we can't possibly cook before they all go bad. I'm going 2 weeks with barely anything to eat at this point. I don't work, but neither SNAP or SSI consider other bills people have to pay. I have a car payment(it's not even a new car, but a shit old one that is now breaking down on us), phone, rent, utilities, medication, doctor visits, I gotta buy my animals food. I don't understand why neither looks at what all a person has to pay. I'm also .1 point away from being diabetic and told I need to eat more fresh food, but if I do that, I'll get a few fruits and veggies and have even less. I can't live like this.
Basically, do I need to report my SSI dropped again? Or is it just going to stay the same amount?

I have had my US Bank checking linked to my GA Lottery Account and I never realized I didn’t update my account so the funds went to my closed account. What will US Bank do, return it or hold on to it?

Small wall of text incoming – the TL;DR is down below!
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My wife and I will be moving to ABQ sometime in a little bit, and we’re pretty excited about it! This sub has been super helpful in letting me read a ton about some cool things to see and do in the city, the many varied opinions on food around Albuquerque, ideas on neighborhoods and places to live, and so on! We’re pretty settled on where we’ll be, what we’ll be doing, and on other things of a more mundane nature, so I thought I might ask a few ^(probably) less-commonly asked questions about the area in preparation for our move. I apologize in advance that it’s a bit of an eclectic mix of questions!
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First, I want to ask about volunteer opportunities around the area. I recently had an experience mentoring someone who was struggling to finish high school, and it was gratifying to support that person and see the pride they took in graduating and finishing HS strong. I’d love to know if there are any organizations around ABQ that specifically focus on mentoring, but my wife and I would also love to know what other volunteer opportunities exist around ABQ!
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Second, are there any local credit unions people might recommend? We’d love to bank locally! I’ll also begin flight training soon after moving, and while I don’t anticipate the need to take out a loan to accomplish my goals there, it’s also nice to see what sorts of options are available!
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Third, my wife has some food allergies that make finding her some nice treats a little difficult sometimes. Are there any dessert places that have some gluten- and dairy-free options that people enjoy? We’ve had some luck with certain ice cream joints and even some bakeries in the past, but I know how hard they can be to find at times! I think it'd just be great to surprise her with some places she can go to!
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And finally, I’ve been getting into Warhammer 40k over the last year or so. I’d love to know what local game stores people recommend! I don’t know much about the tabletop game itself, but I love the lore, enjoy some of the video games, and I painted my first five minis recently! I’d really like to get to know some people who also enjoy the IP and find a cool community!
Thank you so much in advance, and I look forward to getting to know the city!
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TL;DR – Four unrelated questions:

1. Are there volunteer opportunities in ABQ focused on mentoring young adults? Recommendations for other types of volunteering are also welcome!
2. What local credit unions do people recommend?
3. Are there any dessert/treat places that do gluten/dairy-free treats that people enjoy?
4. What local game stores do people like, specifically ones with a strong 40k community?

Edit 2: I forgot to say too that I have already applied for DES rental assistance and I do get EBT. It’s probably my last month with that too since my income is too high to qualify now with my new job. I get $130.
Edit 1: I’ve now called 211; they gave me 3 numbers. 1 says on the recording they don’t give out rent assistance anymore, the other 2 are closed until Monday. I have Monday off work at least.
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I just got served a 5 day notice. And my landlord followed it up with a text telling me to move out before 5 days, he “would prefer.”
I’m having a panic. I feel like I’m on fire with anxiety. I need steps. Please tell me what to do.
I wasn’t making enough doing Uber alone so I got a job in an office. It’s full time, $19 an hour. I only got my first check today, it was like $600! I knew it wouldn’t be enough so I had still been waking up extra early to Uber before work. So work is 5:30AM and I have been waking up between 2-4 to get as much done as possible. Except is still slow af so most days I’m only earning like $30-40 bucks. I’m running myself ragged, I’m so tired my face hurts. But I’m still here doing it and it’s just never enough. I run out of food, I shop at food banks already. I have food stamps.
Oh yeah, on top of the job thing the reason this is happening is because section 8 never got back to me after asking for documents. So since I couldn’t turn in the docs, I officially as of yesterday, became “out of compliance” and they kicked me out of their program. I have receipts and can prove all of this.
Please, please somebody help me. I spent 16 months being homeless with my son and my cat. I haven’t seen my 9 year old daughter since Christmas of 2021 when she was 7. I became homeless due to a combination of Covid and DV. I have no family, no friends (no time). I have been open and candid about my journey on my account. I really thought things could get better and I was so excited to finally have a home. But best and most heart-aching thing of all is that my daughter is coming to live with me again, or she was supposed to. She gets here in 4 days, the day before I have to leave here.
Again, I can prove everything including the emails to sec 8, the notice, the text, the pay check currently sitting untouched in my savings account. I will do anything, just I am begging the universe, please don’t let this happen again, I just cannot do this again. I’m tired, ya know. It’s too much alone.